4 month regression advice

[Addidas]

My 15 week old was a great sleeper. 3 naps a day and slept 7-2am up for feed. Then back down til 630-730.

well that’s all turned on it’s head! Pretty sure we in the regression.

she screams before every nap and bedtime
she wakes a lot in night and is ready to party at 530!

her naps are around 4 hours over 3 naps. Lunch time is longest.

my question is did anyone teach self settling ? Or do u just fed and cuddle to sleep and one day they stop? All over the internet it says it won’t stop until baby can self settle….but how do u teach them that when all the do is scream their eyes out!

iseas of how to navigate through this? I’m not a co sleeper and I don’t bf so those 2 options r out! She’s currently on my chest since 530 but I can’t be doing that every morning!

Oh I use swaddle (one arm out as she sucks her fingers occasionally). White noise. Nap routine and bedtime routine. Never let her go more than 2 hours awake and out her her down at 1.5 if a bad night/nap.

Following as I have the same question!

It is unlikely to stop until they're self settling, I can say this based on past experience. My DD was still having her 4 month sleep regression at 9 months when I was going back to work. My HV told me it was because I was feeding to sleep and I needed to start putting her down awake. It took weeks to sort. I used to have to sit in the dark (normally watching the iPad or my phone with earphones in) next to the cot with my hand on her chest to get her to sleep. Then once we'd cracked that I'd sit next to her not touching her. Then move further away.
I have a DS who is 4 months old and so far I've only had one night of bad sleep over the last couple of weeks and I realised afterwards he'd fell asleep on me that evening whereas since he's been born I've been putting him down awake. I am touching wood as I don't want to jinx myself!!

So update is
naps have settled themselves and she’s putting herself to sleep alone 80 percent of time
Nights are still up and down but having about one night a week where she does only one wake (to tease us) and others were it’s 2 - again it’s manageable. She’s prob putting herself to sleep alone at night 50 percent of time other times we pat and rock her ow she gets upset

keeping fingers crossed she continues to improve. Been 3 weeks so far….

(Actually more than manageable I’m not complaining is what I mean!)

@Addidas did you do anything to help this shift? I am in exactly your boat with my 16 week old...

@jmap81 no but this week we had terrible sleep again after it settling! This is babies! Think it’s sorted then it’s not!

I was strict about a nap routine and kept sleep at 3hr 45 min in a day over 3 naps with the first nap being capped at an hour as supposedly if longer can affect night sleep. And I let her attempt self settling every night but often she cried so I went in and patted her. We managed to go from rocking to patting in cot over a period of week which seems to have helped too also helps at night when wakes I can just pat her and not get out of bed

she now sleeps no crying 50 percent of the nights and sometimes cries but responds to patting. Her wakes totally settled after 4ish weeks.

we actually had a sleep through 7-630 no wake last week! And now she’s gone bannaas again! Maybe the heat?? She’s now 5.5 months