2 year old crying- will not sleep

SleepPleaseee · 2022-04-30T20:37:26+00:00

What do I do? She just keeps crying it's awful. Every single night she just will not sleep until later and later. Checked nappy, checked food, checked milk checked, checked has cuddly toy. Is it a other sleep regression? Please no! Routine is staying the same. Very non verbal so no idea what's wrong other than it isn't the above.

doadeer · 30/04/2022 21:38

What is your day routine? And what's the evening routine?

My son is non verbal and sleeps late too.

Need a bit more information before saying more

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:41

lunch at 12 then nap at 130- 230. Then start winding down for bed at 6, the bedtime hour on cbeebies then is usually ready for sleep at 630 but since clock changed that's more like 730 so she's being cuddled in her room after cbeebies. We are taking it in shifts but she keeps asking to swap parents.

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Seeline · 30/04/2022 21:42

How long has this been happening? Teething or poorly?

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:43

Sorry not really sure what info is helpful. We stopped doing baths before bed at about age 1 as it was just getting her more and more excited. Sometimes there is a ocean track that helps her but sometimes she manages to say no to that.

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:44

About 2 weeks? Ooh could be teething she's not biting her hands but she's been reaching for the crunchy food a lot.

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:46

How many more teeth are there to come?! I'll try the calpol and see if that helps thank you.

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Discovereads · 30/04/2022 21:52

Mine had a bedtime of 8pm at that age. They’re not babies for long and the older they get, the later they stay up. A 630 bedtime is too early imho and the 730 you are getting now is closer to the reality I experienced. Just shift the routine later so wind down starts at 7 instead of 6.

You could also try intermediary step of reading a bedtime story after watching CBeebies (screens are known to make you not sleepy) instead of going straight to cuddles. Bedtime stories snuggled up in bed is a great way to wind down.

doadeer · 30/04/2022 21:52

How long is she taking to get to sleep? You might need to reduce the day nap length too

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:55

Discovereads · 30/04/2022 21:52

Mine had a bedtime of 8pm at that age. They’re not babies for long and the older they get, the later they stay up. A 630 bedtime is too early imho and the 730 you are getting now is closer to the reality I experienced. Just shift the routine later so wind down starts at 7 instead of 6.

You could also try intermediary step of reading a bedtime story after watching CBeebies (screens are known to make you not sleepy) instead of going straight to cuddles. Bedtime stories snuggled up in bed is a great way to wind down.

Got it sounds good thank you so much. I'm a first time mum and feel VERY clueless. yes we've noticed it's taking a lot longer after the cbeebies. Book sounds good. I've been doing that before during the 530 winddown, Into to pjs , clean teeth. But maybe we should shift that to after.

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Nelliephant1 · 30/04/2022 21:58

6.30 is an extremely early bedtime. My lot wouldn't even think about bed at that age until at least 10-11pm and they all dropped daytime naps by about six months old. Not all children need alot of sleep.

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 21:59

doadeer · 30/04/2022 21:52

How long is she taking to get to sleep? You might need to reduce the day nap length too

Oh.. something just clicked. Up until about 2 weeks ago she was hardly napping at all for the last couple of months. But then she started napping again so I let her nap for about an hour. Do you think I should be trying to not let her nap?

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SleepPleaseee · 30/04/2022 22:01

Hubby reports she is finally dropping off so I'm going to catch some Zs myself as she had me up at 4 this morning. Thank you all so much. It feels so lonely sometimes x

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Justdiscovered · 30/04/2022 22:20

Blackout blind and earlier nap I reckon should do it

EarringsandLipstick · 30/04/2022 22:35

Nelliephant1 · 30/04/2022 21:58

6.30 is an extremely early bedtime. My lot wouldn't even think about bed at that age until at least 10-11pm and they all dropped daytime naps by about six months old. Not all children need alot of sleep.

10 - 11 - at 2 yo?!!

My teens & pre-teens are asleep by then.

There's not needing a lot of sleep but that's mad late for small people.

Rinatinabina · 30/04/2022 22:48

I think bedtime is too early, DD needs minimum (and I mean minimum, only really when she’s ill these days) 5.5 hours awake after her nap. Try moving bedtime a bit later, DD would just get wound up if we tried to put her to bed too early and would end up taking ages to fall asleep.

what time does she wake up? I found it helpful to look at it in terms of total sleep hours in 24. DD at 2.5 needs about 11-12 over 24 hours.

Seeline · 01/05/2022 09:39

Mine had dropped all daytime naps by that stage and were always in bed by 7ish. They didn't go to nursery so had their evening meal at about 5 and then we wound things down from then. DH didn't get home from work until about 6.30 so it gave him a chance to do a bedtime story and then we could eat our meal together once the kids were in bed.

It really depends on what suits your lifestyle.

AliceW89 · 01/05/2022 18:58

Average sleep at 2 is 11-13h in 24. Say she’s in the middle and requires 11.5-12h in 24. Divide your day up with 1h nap in the middle and 10.5-11h overnight. So sleep something like 8pm-7am with a nap 1pm-2pm. Adjust times to suit your lifestyle. Good luck!