12 Month Old won’t stop screaming

[momof3sp]

Any advice gratefully accepted. DS is 12 months (next week) and will not for love nor money for the last 3-4 weeks sleep in his own cot. He will fall asleep next to me no problem, but will wake around 4am and scream. I am physically and mentally exhausted. He screams constantly as of late. I physically cannot leave the room or move an inch because he screams. I love him with my whole heart but he is sucking the life out of me with the constant crying. Can someone please offer any advice because I feel like I really 💩 mum 😭

What’s his overall routine?

There's quite a big developmental leap around the 12 month mark, these growth spurts can cause clingy ness, poor sleep etc. if he hasn't always been like this I'd say don't panic I think it'll pass xx

Oh yes! The screaming stage. I moved my lo whinged and ran after me. I went toilet she again came with me, trying to climb on my lap. It's a phase, and likely separation anxiety.

Waking at 4am, maybe overtired?

@LapinR0se His overall routine is good. He wakes around 7:30, Has toast, we do the school run, comes back and has 8oz Milk. Nap around 11-12 then dinner. Bottle around 2;30 and school run. He has a nap on the way home from the school run, last bottle around 10pm and he falls asleep on or next to me and my hubby puts him in his cot. He came into our bed twice this week purely because we’re so exhausted

@LapinR0se he has tea around 6pm. And snacks in between!

He sounds overtired and hungry. That is not enough daytime sleep for a one year old.
I would suggest something like this:
7am porridge made with full fat milk and fruit purée or half a banana. 150ml cup full fat milk.
9.30-10am nap
10am rice cakes and blueberries
12 noon lunch containing protein eg fish pie, spaghetti bolognese. Dessert of full fat Greek yoghurt
1-3pm nap
3pm 150ml cup cows milk
5.30pm carb based dinner eg sweet potato wedges and minestrone soup. Small muffin for dessert
6pm bath
6.45pm bottle of milk
7pm bed

As pp said. I would say overtired. When my lo was 12months we did
630am awake. Get up about 7am
730am breakfast cereal, porridge. Fruit puree
830am to 9am milk 6oz along with yoghurt or toast.
930am till 1030am nap
11am snack. Babybel fruit etc
12 to 1230pm crumpets, toast etc, cucumber, some protein. And some custard before nap.
130pm till 330pm sleep
4pm snack. Biscotti. Crackers etc
530pm dinner.
7pm to 730pm milk and bed

Mines a milk hater so I had to bulk it up else where hence the carbs and she was walking by 10 months 😆 🤣

Forgot to mention DS extremely picky. Won’t eat porridge now, on cows milk 3 bottles a day but varies how much he has. I’ve offered more food but it’s refused 😢

Drop from bottles to sippy cups and the solids intake will go way up

Yep same as pp. Drop to two bottles one morning and one evening. My lo morning bottle got dropped when she wouldn't eat her lunch. Personally I wouldn't feed in night either as that effected her daytime appetite, I can't remember if you said your lo does or not.

Doing this will encourage lo to eat. Even foods you thought they wouldn't eat

For breakfast have you tried cheerios. Soak in milk for few mins and then tip milk away. Viola. Easy picking up cheerios. I do those multi grain ones from kellogs I think, all the varieties as a treat. She loves them x x

Is he going to bed at 10pm?

Hmm. I found months 10-14 ish generally really really difficult. DS was permanently furious and had extreme separation anxiety. It coincided with an awful sleep regression at about 12 months where DS would wake a couple of times a night inconsolably screaming. Lasted for a good month. He tried with all his might to drop down to one nap for a bit, despite still clearly needing 2.

But I agree with PPs more generally. Average sleep in 24h for a one year old is 11-14 hours. Probably towards to upper end. It’s a little unclear from your post but if he’s sleeping 22:00-7:30 with maybe two 1 hours naps, he’s only just in this range. It’s going to be below this range if nap 2 is just a cat nap. What happened if you moved bedtime forward? Or made one of the naps earlier and longer? There are some great routines listed above so I won’t repeat.

DS was breastfed and limiting it during the day really helped improve his food intake. Agree with @LapinR0se id swap at least one bottle to a sippy cup and take it from there.

Thanks everyone for the advice. Going to offer more food and less milk, and bring bedtime forward 🤞🏻