Ferber 1 year old

[Tomlettegregg]

I don't need to hear about why sleep training is cruel. I've read the literature and am happy with my decision.

Baby is a year old. We tried ferber when she was 6 months and it worked relatively quickly but we regressed to old habits (rocking, feeding) when she got sick at Xmas and it's been an ongoing problem since.

She's now well and I have to go away for 5 nights and I'm scared my husband won't be able to rock her to sleep / cope if she's waking every few hours.

There's no issue going to sleep. She's put down awake and goes off no bother. But then she wakes and cries and cries till you go in. Sometimes she stops after being rocked, sometimes she stops only when she's fed.

Any advice? This isn't going to be done quickly as I know she's really going to protest. I'm fairly strong willed but then start questioning myself - what if she's hungry or in pain?

Shes not a huge eater despite us doing everything we can so she does have a bottle before bed. I know she can do it as she has before but it's so hit and miss.

Have you tried ferber method again? In the middle of night?

It's habit, lo wakes in night and wants you as their used to you going in to rock etc.

She might not be a good eater as she's eating in the night? My lo was like this so had to cut night feeds out. Few rough nights.

Yep, Ferber, but consistently through the night and for wakings for the few weeks.

i made sure I have a big feed before bed (porridge or something) and also gave calpol, probably not needed but then at least I ruled out genuine hunger and pain!

good luck, it’s painful but quick

We are about to go down this route, really hoping it works out 😭

I did ferber @Sneezymcsneezy. I did it about 6 months old. Took about 5 days. I never got to 10 mins of crying. My other half got over that.

By 4th and 5th day it was a whinge rather then full on. Lasted less then 5 minutes.

My only advice is don't slip into bad habits once you done it. Thinking oh I will just rock you tonight and let you fall asleep in my arms specially at a younger age. My almost 14 month old is alright to fall asleep on us now and won't expect it all-night. But I found when she was younger if I let it happen once she would expect it at every point. Though as I'm sure you know every baby is different so may be OK for you.

They never tell you when you Ferber the first time that you’ll undoubtedly have to do it again at some point! Arghhhh! Totally normal, do it without hesitation, and good luck!

considering doing the same with my 11.5 month old - somethings got to change as he’s currently howling and thrashing around even we pick him up and try to cuddle / rock him back to sleep. We did gradual retreat with my eldest which worked a charm, took about 10 days with no crying. Naively thought second baby would do the same but me being in the room and not holding/ feeding him is clearly unacceptable! Good luck everyone.

Sorry I lost my login details! She isn't a good eater so it's really hard to rule out hunger. She point blank refuses milk. She also gets colds a lot (she's in nursery 3 days a week) and is teething so I find it really hard to leave her..