13 month old won't sleep for mum

[Happyfeet22]

My DD is 13 months old and has never been a great sleeper. Lately she has been waking for 4 hours in the middle of the night. She won't go back down and wants to be held the whole time. She does go back to sleep much quicker for her dad but will cry and protest a lot. She often skips her afternoon nap so is extremely overtired by bedtime and goes down between 6-7. She still takes a while to go down. We haven't been able to drop the first nap as she wakes around 5am and is falling asleep by 9/10am. She usually does a morning nap of 1 hour and then won't go down for the second one, even if we try for two hours. Please help, I am at the end of my tether with exhaustion 😓

My little one who is almost 14months has/had been fighting her afternoon nap. So I cut it right back. Few days of 45mins sleep until she started fighting her afternoon nap again, then i cut it again. Were at 30 mins now. We put her down at 930am and Generally falls asleep by 945 am up at 1015am. Back down about 115pm to 130pm.

I intend to cut the morning nap even more until its gone.

Her routine roughly.
945am sleep. 1015am up.
115pm to 130pm in cot 330pm to 345pm awake. Depends what time she fell asleep.
730pm to 745pm bed.
Wakes 630am to 715am (whoop whoop taken a while to get to this)

I would say lo is overtired hence the waking in night..... my lo does this when she's overtired.

How long is the morning nap?

Thanks for you reply. Her first nap is around 9 or 9.30am, I have tried different times but she still skips the afternoon nap. Nursery manage to get her down twice a day once at 9 for 30 mins and again at 2pm for an hour. It's just me she won't go down for :(

I would be tempted to go to one nap!

Or the other way. Do a 9am ish nap. For 45mins to an hour
Then say a later nap about 230pm till 4pm.
Bed about 8pm

So then to encourage a later wake up which once you changed something can take up to 3 weeks to see a change.

When you have a later wake up potentially could do one nap days.

When lo wakes at 5am.... do you go in ? Get her up?

When my lo went through a phase of this I used to cuddle her and get her back to sleep by any means. Then that pushed everything forward.

Is lo waking cause if the birds?
Is it dark?
Is lo warm enough?

Apologises for all the posts but thinking of all the things I did.

no worries for ll the posts it's helpful. I have to go in at 5am because she screams whilst standing on the bars and won't stop till I come. I'm not sure what is waking her but she always wakes up at that time even when put to bed at 8. The room is around 20 degrees so she should be warm enough.

If i do the naps the other way around I can't ger her down for the second one. I try for up to two hours and she just won't sleep. I did one nap today, she slept for two hours but was really hard to keep up until lunchtime.
Thanks for all your help 😊

Is she able to fall asleep independently of you and DH?

Can you try distracting her one day with park, walks, soft play in the morning and then seeing if she'll have a longer nap in the afternoon?

I think my 15month is dropping to 1 nap now, but has been on 1 nap for about 2 months at nursery...

Today was:
Awake - 7
Nap - 11.50-1.20
Bed - 6.30

@pinkunicorns54 yes my lo is on one naps at nursery as they couldn't get her to do two naps. At home I haven't quite mastered one nap as she will just scream at me until she goes for a nap in morning, so I'm phasing it out.

Pp has a good point does lo self soothe?
I wouldn't be getting lo up at 5am. But that's me. Did you do 8pm bedtimes consistently for say a month to see if it helps?