My 9 month old still feeds at around 11pm and 5am, going down at 7pm and waking up around 7am. I know this could be a lot worse, but I'm finding it tough as he 'book-ends' my sleep so I can't get an early night as he wakes me soon after, and I really struggle to go back to sleep after 5am especially as my husband then disturbs me getting up for work at 6am. I'm pretty sure he's ready to night wean or at least go down to one feed, but I don't want to do CIO as I tried it once with the support of a sleep consultant and while it worked to an extent (we had an amazing couple of weeks where he woke 0-1x per night) as soon as we went on holiday it stopped working and I'm not willing to do it again if it will just stop working as soon as his sleep is a bit disturbed by holidays/illness etc.
How have others gone about gentle night weaning? I'd prefer to stick with the 5am feed if I kept one as I don't want to risk early morning waking, but the 11pm feed is the one where he is super distressed and will thrash about in my arms and be hysterical if I don't feed him. I've thought about reducing the feed by a minute per night, does this work for anyone?