Routines

[Sweetpea12]

Can I ask what age everyone had routines for their baby in regards to feeding/sleep etc. I’m struggling with my 8 month old he goes to bed sometimes as late as 11pm because I can’t get him to sleep before this. He occasionally wakes during the night usually looking for his dummy or a cuddle and will only really sleep 4 hours before starting to stir and wake. Because he goes to bed late it means his wake up time the following day is around 8.30/9

Should I just wake him earlier than this in the hope he naps earlier meaning earlier bed time? Nap wise he will sleep 3 hours after waking for around an hour then he was sleeping at 3pm but stays up now and falls asleep around 5pm (which affects night time) Tried stopping that sleep and he just screams and cries and at times I’m so stressed and tired myself that it’s easier to just let him do it. Feels like I’m failing him everyday by not having any sort of routine but I’m a single parent and just find the days very long and tough so like I’m doing whatever he wants to just get by

Long post.. sorry thought it was better to explain his naps etc really hope someone has advise!

I would be waking lo up at 7 to 730am. But that's me. Then bring everything forward.

Think I was doing
945am till 11am
2 or 230pm depends on day until 4pm latest
Bed 730 to 8pm

Agree with PP, I’d be waking LO up earlier At 8 months I was doing:-

7: wake up and milk
8: breakfast
9:30-11: nap 1
11:30/12: lunch
1:45: milk
2:30-4: nap 2
5: dinner
6:30: bathtime routine
7: milk
7:30: bed

Yes to waking him. Same time every day.

Then nap times using the 234 timings

• 2h awake from waking to 1st nap
• 3h awake between nap 1 and 2
• 4h awake from 2nd nap to bedtime

Brilliant advice thank you so much! I had every intention of waking him early but depending how tired he is he can’t stay up to then have breakfast, play etc. Today he was awake at 7 and because we went out with my older nephew to a interactive centre he stayed awake to 3pm which he’s never done before

I will definitely be trying these routines thank you! I was giving him 3 meals just not at any sort of set times as was all dependent on when he was napping or if we are out somewhere. He also still has 3-4 bottles a day and at times will want these more than food so getting him to have meals to fill him up for a good nights sleep is harder I feel

Maybe I misunderstood..... lo stayed awake from 7 am till 3 pm?

I think at that age, I was on 2 to 3 bottles. But I had a formula milk hater.

Babies love routine and quickly adapt I have learnt!

I didn’t believe I’d be a routine led parent. But then it turned out DS would only eat and sleep if it was completely and utterly predictable, so it was around 8 or 9 months we implemented a routine as well. The main thing is setting your wake up time and sticking to it (even if you’ve had a bad night). Throw in some sensibly spaces naps and mealtimes and bedtime. Rearrange plans that get in the way whilst solidifying it…when it’s engrained then you can medal or miss the odd nap, but until then treat it as gospel. Good luck!

Today he was awake from 7am to 3pm he’s never did that before. But he went to bed at 8.30 tonight which was a win lol I was wanting to cut his bottles down but to cut a long story short he was born and diagnosed Hirschsprung’s disease and he was on and off formula for weeks so it’s his comfort now that he tolerates formula so well so I’ve decreased his bottles but I give them when he looks for it which is usually when he’s really upset

And food wise he kind of eats half of meals then prefers little and often. I will definitely follow the advice of getting him up early I think I know in my own head I need to do that but I’m sooo tired. It will get easier right 😅