Please tell me my 21 month old isn’t dropping his nap

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My 21 month old has always been a good night sleeper but a crap napper. The last 2 weeks it’s been a real struggle to get him down for his nap. Nursery have found the same. Despite waking him religiously at 7:15 he hasn’t humoured going to sleep until 13:45 at the earliest. We then have to wake him at 14:45 (ie capped at max 1h). Bedtime is still difficult despite this and he regularly isn’t asleep until 20:15. When he is asleep he sleeps through the night, has done since being tiny.

Today he’s just point blank refused his nap. Rolled around his cot giggling and speaking for an hour in the dark. I was lying next to him the whole time having my much needed rest 😂 I’ve got him up and he seems happy as Larry now, but I know he’ll be a mess by bedtime.

Please tell me this is some kind of regression and isn’t the beginning of the end for napping?!?

He's staying up later as he doesn't need the nap anymore - sorry op, I think your nap days are finished.
My DD decided hers was going at 15 months, my DS napped until he was 3. They're all so different, but As he's sleeping straight through I believe he's done

Mine too. He’s always been a crap napper and a crap overnight sleeper.

Typically waking now around 6.30-7am, then goes through until 8.30/9pm.

Was awake 6am today, I attempted nap 1.30pm, over an hour later he was still wide awake. Never seems tired.

DS doesn’t nap on nursery days, so he comes home, has his tea, absolutely fumes through bath (if we do it) and pjs and then collapses in a heap at 6.30 and sleeps solid for 12 hours.

I’m off with him on a Friday when he’s usually really ready for a lunchtime sleep for a good 90 mins. He then won’t sleep until about 8.30, so we just put him to bed slightly later and he amuses himself in his cot until he falls asleep.

Over the weekend we usually just play it by ear and it often depends what time he wakes up (we have to wake him at 6.30 for nursery) We still put him in his cot if poss and if he falls asleep great and if not he’ll just chat to himself and at least we’ve had a break from each other 😂

He’s just gone 3. They’re all different sadly!!

What's the problem with his dropping the nap?

My eldest stopped napping at 13 months...

@bluebaul - my nightmare is I can’t get anything done when mine doesn’t nap. He won’t sit still 5 mins so spends 16hrs a day climbing. I have 101 things I need to get done without him.
I need to paint garden fence. Will be doing that at 9.30pm at this rate. I also need to call kitchen fitters without a child screaming in my ear. Make dinner prep in peace 5 mins. Would like to wee without wrestling toilet paper from child or them flooding shower, or escaping to let postman in…

I like to eat my lunch in peace while he’s asleep 😂

My first was done by that age to
My ten month old has just 30 mins all day sometimes 😬. I think she'll be done well before two to .
Unfortunately some just don't really do these lovely naps in the middle of the day and personally I prefer a bit more evening time

@jupitermars1345 - but mine doesn’t got to bed early or sleep overnight either, so no evening time

@Caspianberg
High chair whilst you prep dinner, get him
To help you.
Cot/playpen when you need to make a phone call. Stick him in the garden with you with a pot of water and brush and get him
To paint the floor whilst you do the fence.

Mine mostly stopped napping before she was 2. Her cousins still really needs a 2 hour nap at over 3! Sounds like he might be done…sorry…

Yep stop the nap and enjoy the earlier bed time!

He may need a nap every few days still, possibly at the weekend

Thanks all for your advice! I’m not surprised to be honest - when he was a baby we regularly used to have days of 2 x 20 minute naps. He’s been surprisingly okay all afternoon. DH is doing bath time whilst I lie in a dark room and rock a bit. DS is a scrumptious, gorgeous toddler, but oh my is he exhausting park-cafe-toddler group-playing at home-park again-home for tea has seen me off that’s for sure! I’ll miss my middle of the day ‘staring into space’ hour haha.

@ladydimitrescu - thanks. He’s been climbing up and out cot for months, jumps over a stairs gate like it doesn’t exist, and high chairs just hulks open straps unfortunately.
He can’t help me paint in garden as it’s a fence that needs attaching above raised garage, so it’s currently a dangerous 2m high drop

He’s already helping me do stuff all day, I just really would like 45 mins of peace.

All my 4 kids naturally stopped their naps at 2 years old. I remember feeling so jealous of other kids who still napped!
In the end I just put them in their bedroom for some quiet time anyway!

The end is near!!!

DS dropped his around this age too.

Two of mine were like this...naps were good while they lasted. My eldest napped for the odd 10 mins so my standards are low! Suggest winding down the day and starting the evening routine a little earlier. You’ll get your rest after your hectic day- eventually!

DS1 stopped napping at 12 months. Ds2 napped for two hours until he was three.
All different.

Mine is 20 months and naps seem to be on the way out here too. She’s always been hugely unpredictable with naps here too, and only ever contact napped or in a moving car (except with the childminder who was apparently magic, but even she says it’s a struggle to get her to nap the last week). Now she seems to wake up early, have a little power nap in the way to whatever we are doing that morning, so this morning it was 10 mins on the way to pets at home at 10am, and then that’s it for the rest of the day.

Contact napping was shit for getting anything done or any personal space, but it was at least a great excuse to sit on my bum for an hour or so. I’ll miss it!

Asleep within 2 minutes of head touching the mattress at 19:15! That’s a bit of a win! Now let’s hope we don’t get a 5am start tomorrow