My 10 month old will not sleep

[marvmaise]

Please help me I feel like I'm genuinely breaking here. My 10 month old has never been a great sleeper, odd ones through the night ect but mostly cat naps during day, nothing I do can change it. But recently he has started having 20 minute cat naps during day, won't sleep unless his held and it's every two hours he needs one. Plus the last couple nights, he's been waking every half an hour like he's cat napping all night if that makes sense? Last night it was 1am I was up every half hour with him resettling 20 minutes Kip up again, all way till 6 this morning. Is this normal, I'm so exhausted I just don't know what to do, I feel like I've tried everything to help.

It's so hard isn't it. Our 11m is the same. So sensitive when we put him down even if he has been asleep in our arms a while. We had naps and bedtime sorted and now they are awful. Cot settling takes an hour and he roams the cot like a tornado.

Last week we took him off formula (intolerance, eczema) and for a few nights he slept really well. Paid for a sleep consultant but methods didn't fit with us as he ended up more upset and he isn't a crying baby. But the separating feeding from sleep and the diet was useful info. Calorie rich foods (peanut butter, sweet potato, coconut) so they need less milk at night and an appetite in the day although he isn't eating well now.

It's breaking me too, I don't know how long we can sustain it, I spend more nights on the sofa from 3am but he can't get comfy in my arms now. It's like electricity is going through him. He is an active boy during the day but has lots of normal calm moment

I would take him to the GP to rule out anything medical, and then I would sleep train. There are some great Facebook support groups like “Respectful Sleep Training” that can help you work out an age appropriate schedule and introduce you to different sleep training approaches (they aren’t all just “leave the baby to cry all night”!).

I was terrified about sleep training my eldest but my mum and friends convinced me to try the Ferber method when she was 7 months old and I was going back to work and I was nearly broken. It worked in 3 nights with very minimal crying (I think something like 17 minutes all told), and SHE was much better rested and less cranky during the day! Once we sorted out her nights, her crap naps (30 min) sorted themselves out too within about a month. She started napping for 1.5-2.5 hours!!! DC2 I sleep trained at 6 months, and DC3 at 5 months, and I feel like I can parent them like a real human being, not a zombie. It’s truly amazing!

Use the huckleberry app to get a good nap routine. Then try a few different ways to get them to sleep.

My Dd has just done sleep training with her 12 month old DD. She was due to go back to work and was exhausted, as baby’s sleep was dreadful.
She did a very gentle method, and never left her alone, kept lying her back down in her cot, patted her and sang to her, within a few days her sleeping was transformed, sleeping for much longer at night and is much easier to settle if she does wake and had two 2 hour naps during the day. She’s now a different baby because she’s not tired all the time!

No advice I'm afraid but just wanted to raise my hand and say I'm there with you with my 10 month old DD. She's my second child but I genuinely didn't know I could be this sleep deprived. Terrified for when I have to go back to work in two months time.

@marvmaise I know it's been a while , I m just firing a shot in the dark in case you happen to read it . I m currently in the same situation as you were then with my 10 month old . I have tried everything, she just won't sleep . So how things turned out for you ? How did you cope up with all that stress ? Hopefully you got the rest that you and your LO deserve.