Would you consider this sleeping through the night?

pompomseverywhere · 2022-03-27T04:41:42+00:00

14 month old went to bed IN HER ACTUAL COT and was asleep at 7pm and woke up at 4. She's never slept that long. I feel fabulous but 4am (clock says 5 obviously today) is still the night time to me. Has she slept through in your opinion?

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Sunflowergirl1 · 27/03/2022 06:15

No it isn't sleeping through but still sounds like a big step to doing so. I found that by imposing a rigid routine that mine were sleeping at 12 weeks from 7pm to 7am having been woken at 10 for a feed and after several months, dropped the 10pm feed and they just went through. It felt marvellous though after the first 12 weeks, the first 5 were hell

FTMbg · 27/03/2022 06:17

Congratulations! Glad you got a decent sleep!
For us a 9 hour stretch like that would be sleeping through, our 12mo gets 9-10 hours at night normally. If yours normally sleeps longer or goes back to sleep now, I think a lot of people would still class it as sleeping through or say "slept through til 5". You might find it lengthens even more now, fingers crossed!

icklekid · 27/03/2022 06:20

Yes that was as good as it got for ds until he was 3 maybe 3.5, even now he regularly wakes at 5.30/6am but at least now he entertains himself. For many years dh used to start his day at 4.30/5am!

Caspianberg · 27/03/2022 06:20

I would say that time is sleeping though. Mine goes to bed around 8.30/9pm and wakes 6.30/7am. I classify that as sleeping though and that’s 9-10hrs the same. He often still wakes though

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 27/03/2022 06:21

9 hours is classed as sleeping through, so yes

MartinMartinMarti · 27/03/2022 06:37

@Sunflowergirl1

No it isn't sleeping through but still sounds like a big step to doing so. I found that by imposing a rigid routine that mine were sleeping at 12 weeks from 7pm to 7am having been woken at 10 for a feed and after several months, dropped the 10pm feed and they just went through. It felt marvellous though after the first 12 weeks, the first 5 were hell

I don’t know if you realise, but that’s quite an unkind thing to say.

OP’s child is a lot older than when yours were apparently sleeping through, so your experiences probably don’t offer much that she can learn from. It comes across as gloating.

In my (long!) experience there is vast amount of luck on whether babies sleep. Obviously the way you manage things makes a different, but I doubt very much that it was just your parenting that gave you good sleeping. Putting it down to you being good at a routine implies that OP is to blame of her daughter doesn’t sleep.

I’m sure it wasn’t your intention, but posts like this can make people feel like shit.

Caspianberg · 27/03/2022 06:42

My almost 2 year old has never even slept 7pm-7am. Despite having a routine for the start. Doesn’t sleep 8-8 or 9-9 either.

He also has a nap routine, and gets a nice story, into cot, and then faffs around for an hour bouncing around not sleeping.

pamplemoussee · 27/03/2022 06:51

It sounds like she did really well - Everyone has a different concept of what "sleeping through" is I think I once read it was 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep but in the end it's meaningless one persons definition will be different to another

I think once I let go of this notion of how long my child slept / how many wake ups / checking the clock I felt better and it just starts to happen naturally anyway over time

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pompomseverywhere · 27/03/2022 07:47

@Sunflowergirl1 how many children do you have?

@FTMbg with my middle one we eventually used a gro clock to extend the time but they need to be over 2 I think for them really get the concept.

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SnackSizeRaisin · 27/03/2022 08:04

It wouldn't be enough for me as I like to sleep till 7am myself! But I guess it would be sleeping through if that was the normal getting up time in the household?
It's a good amount though and shows more is possible!

LazyYogi · 27/03/2022 08:10

Did she go back to sleep or was that you up for 5am (4am)?
I used to say, slept through with one wake up when mine did that.
Mine was asleep for 8 which meant he'd have been up at 6 which I find a bit more do-able!

stuntbubbles · 27/03/2022 08:14

It’s sleeping through because they did all their sleep in one long burst. 4am starts are brutal, though, which is why sometimes I preferred a couple of night wakings as it stretched the morning wake-up time to later

MsChatterbox · 27/03/2022 08:24

@MartinMartinMarti 🙌🏻 I have a near 2 year old that isn't even close to sleeping through and she has had a solid routine since birth. So happy to read your comment!

SleepingStandingUp · 27/03/2022 08:25

I'd say its sleeping through cos it's so long, but if they wouldn't go back to sleep I'd be chucking them in bed with me until it was day time

DockOTheBay · 27/03/2022 08:34

In my opinion, no.

People have all sort of definitions of what is officially sleeping through, but for me if I have to wake up before 6am it's not sleeping through as I would never chose to wake that early.

Also the clocks went forward so that 4am is really 3am in her head

DockOTheBay · 27/03/2022 08:35

Oh sorry, missed the 4am/5am.
Still way too early for me.

GeneLovesJezebel · 27/03/2022 08:35

Yes I would, and I’d be trying to keep her up until 8pm so she sleeps that bit longer.

JurassicPerks · 27/03/2022 08:42

I'd say that's fabulous. What a wonderful mother's day gift!

Since she went to bed at 8 new time, what about making meals and bedtime later, and see if she'll do 8-5 regularly?

2KidsNoTime · 27/03/2022 08:47

I think 9 hours counts as sleeping through under the definitions you read online. Sounds like a good improvement!

But... IMO it's not sleeping through unless they wake at an acceptable hour that you'd naturally wake at (after 6am for us for example). As if you've got to get up and feed them at an hour you'd not usually be awake at then it doesn't really matter whether it fits the definition of sleeping through or not - it's still waking up the parents!

Relentlessrose · 27/03/2022 08:49

Only one of my DC ever did that, the other two I would have called any 8 hours in a row sleeping through the night as that is the best it ever got

mummyh2016 · 27/03/2022 08:52

I wouldn't say it's sleeping through if they're up before 6am. Almost though!

Just10moreminutesplease · 27/03/2022 08:52

@Sunflowergirl1

No it isn't sleeping through but still sounds like a big step to doing so. I found that by imposing a rigid routine that mine were sleeping at 12 weeks from 7pm to 7am having been woken at 10 for a feed and after several months, dropped the 10pm feed and they just went through. It felt marvellous though after the first 12 weeks, the first 5 were hell

What an unkind comment, it sounds like you think having a baby who doesn’t sleep through is a failing of some kind? A rigid overnight routine at 12 weeks might have worked for you and your babies but it won’t for many others.

I’d count that as sleeping through OP, even though those 4am starts can feel brutal!

IwaswhoIam · 27/03/2022 08:54

Yup ! My youngest use to wake up at 5am every morning when he was much younger . He now sleeps until 7/8am thank goodness 😅! Sleeping until 5am counts as sleeping through , change even with the time change . That’s a good stretch of sleep 🙌

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pompomseverywhere · 27/03/2022 09:16

@SnackSizeRaisin

It wouldn't be enough for me as I like to sleep till 7am myself! But I guess it would be sleeping through if that was the normal getting up time in the household? It's a good amount though and shows more is possible!

God no that's not our normal get up time, I brought her in bed for a feed and she dozed off for another hour. I then let her play about a bit upstairs before getting up. 4am is hideous but having had so long with very little sleep, cosleeping and constant breastfeeding I feel like I've won the lottery.

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pompomseverywhere · 27/03/2022 09:18

@GeneLovesJezebel

Yes I would, and I’d be trying to keep her up until 8pm so she sleeps that bit longer.

The trouble is I'm in bed by 9 so I want a bit of evening to my myself in peace to watch MAFS and snack! Their actual bedtime is 6pm which I know sounds ridiculous but both are asleep within minutes. We had a late night yesterday from being out in the garden all day.

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