Co -sleeping to cot.. how on earth do you do it?

[unicorn]

Nearly 3 month old, loves to be held. Has been in with me and has been b/feeding every 2/3 hours.

I really need to get more sleep so think he should go in cot now... he thinks otherwise and screams like a banshee whenever I try - and no, he doesn't exhaust himself - I can't let him get that upset, so he comes back in with muggins here!

Anyone got any good suggestions of how we can do this move from bed to cot as painlessly as possible?

nb I don't remember having this problem with my other 2 kids (now 8 and 5)

Don't know but bumping this for you as DD 6 months old and started to cry if I even leave the bed to go to the loo, so we also thinking time to give the cot another try...

Could try bedside cot as an interim measure, then move into own room with side up later on
This kind of thing IYDKWIM www.expressyourselfmums.co.uk/product.asp?group_id=375&country_id=0 but there are lots out there

Yes, we've got one of them. Has become glorified bedside table as dd won't sleep in it!wants to be cuddled up to me. we are about to give it another go tho...

yes that cot looks good but his nibs won't even go to bed on his own - same as you NK he wants to be snuggled up near his food supply... moi!

I tried again with his cot last night and from 6 - 9pm he bawled -I kept going in to se him and he seemed really stressed... so he won and was back in with me.

Now I don't mind through the night as it is easier to feed him, but I don't really/can't go to bed at 6pm with him...

So what on earth do I do?
(nb he is asleep in my arms at the min, 1 handed typing!)

i co slept withmy son til he was 9 months. i was havingno sleep as he was basically using me as a personal pacifier what with being latched on alla night. if i tried to remove him he would start sucking! asleep! the best thing i did was put his cot into his own room and let him cry himself to sleep. itis not easy but you have to leave them to it. at first he cried for what semed ages, now sometimes he does not protest at all, other times he has a whinge for about 5-10 minutes. he is now 10 months old so does not take them too long to adjust.

just did a big reply and lost it in cyber-space

will summarise now and get back to you

I co-slept until ds was 12 weeks.

Then I needed him in his cot so we could all get some sleep!

I couldn't face controlled crying, I couldn't bare him crying for more than a minute!

I started off by having a very set routine, bath, change, feed, cuddle. Then into his cot.

I won't lie - it was a week of hell! But the way I did it was to leave him if he was just wriggling round and unsettled. But as soon as it turned into a proper cry I would pick him up and cuddle him. No talking. Then as soon as he stopped crying I'd put him back down.

Some nights I'd be doing that from 7pm until 11pm!

And to be fair he just missed being in with me and having constant cuddles. I didn't blame him for crying!

But after a couple of days it started to sink in that his only choice was to go to sleep! He knew I wouldn't leave him to cry and I hadn't gone anywhere. But at the same time going in my bed was not an option.

He was fantastic after the first week.
But I have to say that I think it only worked for me because he was sleeping through at 12 weeks. If I was still doing night feeds I don't think I could have done it as I know I'd have caved in at 2am when he woke up and ended up getting him in with me just to get back to sleep!

(Have to say though, we are now co-cleeping again and ds is 2.5! We started it again when he was 1. Long story though!!)

i think he is a bit young for that bethoo, not even three months yet.

unicorn my ds was like this, although he didn't go to sleep at 6pm, I used to take him up with me at 10pm. if he was going to sleep earlier it was under duress in the bouncy chair. at about 7-8m i took the side off the cot, tied it to the bed and he was fine with that. at 9m i put the side back on and dh took over bedtimes, phew. he is 2.9 now, still a rotten sleeper, cannot sleep for longer than 9 hours but is happy in his own room.

with two of mine they just went onto a cot when they started crawling around in bed! - about 10 months. dh put them into bed & went to calm them when they cried. Was difficult but after a few nights was fine. My two oldest went into a cot at 1yr and it was no trouble.

I just tried him again in cot as he is so tired.. but nope, poor little mite worked himself up to a right state.
When I took him out he clung on to me for dear life.

He seems absolutely terrified of being left on his own.. guess it's a survival thing..

Oh well I think I will have to live with it for time being.. he won't be a baby forever!

the bouncy chair is a brilliant thing for reluctant sleepers, a vibrating one even better.

fishie we got one..but seems to stimulate him rather than soothe though

I reckon I need an elderly relative to sit and hold him all day, alas my mother is too far away.

get a nice book, settle down and BOUNCE for about half an hour eventually he will succumb. you could try a sling?

got a wilkinet.. it's quite useful, but he is heavy and long, so it is fine when walking around, but impossible to sit down.

His best sleep seems to be when I am asleep with him... so I guess that's the answer.. I will just have to succumb and sleep with him all day (if only!)

Just enjoy it for now then - they grow up so fast anyway