Co-sleeping with 3 kids...Htf am I going to do this then?

[CharlieAndLolasMummy]

We are expecting baby #3 in about 4 weeks.

We have dd (2) and ds (4). They start off the night in their own room, and sometimes come through, sometimes not. Mainly it is dd who comes through.

We have a kingsize bed and a folding bed. This takes up pretty much all our bedroom.

I don't think cosleeping with a newborn and 2 toddlers is really a goer, not least because duvets get chucked everywhere, but also because they squirm.

It doesn't tend to work to take them back through, not least because we are then shattered. I also don't think that it would be a great idea to start sleep training/chucking them out of our bed when they have just had a new sibling.

There is no space in their room for any more beds.

So the ONLY solution I can think of is that I sleep in the study on the sofa bed with db (its a big sofa bed, with a nice firm mattress-I can't see any safety issues here) and the kids and dp just sort themselves out at night.

BUT I don't want to do this! I don't want to be in a separate room to dp and I don't think its a great idea from the kids pov for me to bugger off with the new baby.

Thoughts?

ps first to mention any form of sleep training gets a big cold cup of coffee in the face.

it might just be a case of needs must for the first few weeks/months - whatever way you get the most sleep!

You and the new baby sleeping together in the study sounds the most logical solution;remember it will only be temporary!

sorry haven't a clue on this and don't want a cold cup of coffee in the face (mine would be in their own beds, sorry).

So it wasn't one of your children posting the other day then as charlieandlola?

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My only suggestion is the big cold cup of coffee one, I'm afraid.

But if it is mainly the 2 yr old who comes through, I would've thought that there's plenty of room for her in your bed with you and dp and the baby in a cot as
clara says.

oh ar$e, wanted magic solution there

the study is cold...

oh re the cot-no, doesn't quite work with layout of room (complex). but good idea.

it's very bad timing to try sleep training now, it is likely to go completely wrong when the new baby arrives.

I know how easy it is to get into bad sleeping habits!

Give yourself a time scale - find a temporary solution for now, and then do something to resolve the sleeping problems at a better time, whent he new baby is four months old or more.

DS2 arrived when we were still co-sleeping with DS1, and I'm afraid our solution was for me to go off into the spare room with DS2 and leave DP and DS1 in the family bed. Then, when DS2 was about five months old, we moved DS1 into his own bed (he was 2 and a half at that point and settled into it fairly happily).

In the absence of an absolutely massive room with enough space for all of you, I can't think of any other solution!

remove all furniture from bedroom and cover floor entirely with mattresses ?

any chance dd could be persuaded to go in with ds rather than you if she wakes in the night?

lol mrsb have ALREADY done that, really. We cannot actually fully open the door...