18 month old co sleeper- HELP!

[newbie2003]

Hi sleep hive mind!

I was wondering if anyone has successfully moved away from co-sleeping/breastfeeding through the night with a toddler? If so, please share your tips with me.

I have a nearly 19 month old who I feed to sleep for naps/bedtime (we've loved it so far- especially since she's asleep within minutes) but the multiple night wakes and intensity of only me doing bedtime is really starting to take its toll. At bedtime I can transfer my LO into her cot once she's asleep and on again on her first wake up (usually 10ish), but from then on any wake ups I just bring her back into bed with me and feed/cuddle back to sleep until the morning. I usually catch up on sleep next to her at her naptime! LO is also at nursery 3 days a week where they pat her to sleep and back to sleep on waking up.

I'm really keen to gradually stop breastfeeding now and I'm looking for gentle ways to get my daughter in her own sleep space/sleep longer periods and was wondering if anyone else had been through this? If it's been asked before do redirect me to other posts as I'm too tired to function the search bar....send coffeeeee!

Thanks lovely mums.

No advice but loads of sympathy as it's tough and tiring! Hoping someone comes along with advice as I could do with it too.

Hi!
This was our life until very recently!
Still breastfeeding an almost 20 month old at bedtime, he was up nearly every hour during the night and had been for months!
Last week I just decided to stop feeding! Every other time I've told him no more milk he had a cry and hit really upset so I always gave in.

But this week rather than telling him no at bedtime when he asked for milk I just changed the subject. Asked if we should have a cuddle, which book did he want to read etc.

We introduced a little snack before bed, a cup of milk some porridge, or a rusk etc, then just laid in my bed and had a cuddle. He was asleep the first night within 15 mins with no tears and upset. Then put in his own bed. He then slept for 6 hours which Is unheard of, woke up and had a drink of water and went back to sleep until morning. And he's been that way every night since!

I found it was telling him no to milk that was more upsetting to him, he asks me to feed him but I just redirect his attention elsewhere.
Every time he woke up before he would ask for milk, it's as though that was all that's on his mind as he went to sleep feeding.

Sending lots of hugs as I know just how tired you must be feeling, and fingers crossed you find a way that works for you!