Toddler sleep upstairs and parents downstairs?

[AnitaLuna10]

I didn't know which topic to put this into but here's a breakdown

Me(pregnant), my 5yr daughter, my mum and brother(12) are soon to move to my boyfriends house because his house is bigger and my mum can't afford to get her own etc.. anyway..

The house has 3 rooms upstairs and 1 downstairs, which is the biggest one. He thinks my mum my brother and my daughter should have the 3 bedrooms upstairs and us two to have the big one (because it's bigger) with the baby when it's born. My daughter currently has trouble sleeping at night and wakes up 20 times (me and her share a room atm) I just feel that separation will cause anxiety for both of us and it just won't work as I'm gonna have to go up and down the stair 20 times during the night, gonna be even worst with the baby because she will get so jealous and feel left out that we are sleeping with baby and she's on her own...

Apparently the room upstairs is too small for my boyfriend to be all 3 of us in the room. And he thinks my daughter will just have to learn and get on with it... I really don't know what to think at the moment as he really doesn't want to be upstairs. I don't know what's the best solution! Maybe I'm just overthinking. Any advice!

Any replies will be appreciated:)

I would be upstairs with my daughter and put mum in the room downstairs if it were me

Where does your boyfriend currently sleep?

(And a question you didn’t ask - is it a great idea to move your whole family in with someone you’re not married too? Having a newborn is stressful for most relationships without the whole extended family…)

You're moving in with him with your whole family? Where do you currently live? How long have you been together? Do you live with your mum now? Would she help with your 5year old and the new born? I think if you already live with her I'd stay where I was and give my older child the comfort of a home she already knows, with out being guilted into not giving her comfort etc.

If the boyfriends house is the only option I'd put the boyfriend upstairs and me and the two children on the big room downstairs. Does he have children already? How does he feel about your mum and brother moving in?