Help my son won't sleep

[mother1999]

My son is 9 months and is up every single hour of the night. I am sleep deprived. Extremely exhausted and I don't know what else to do as he will. Not get into any kind of routine. Help. Please

I have a sleep consultant coming on Tues for the same situation. Sending solidarity. I have no advice yet though! I just keep boobing to sleep and then his Dad does the first half of the night then we swap and he goes into the spare room and baby then loads up on the boob again. It's been going on since the four month leap here and we have tried all sorts.

It's so hard isn't it! My partner is a night worker so he is always working through the night which leaves me completely alone to deal with him and then in the day my partner had to try get as much sleep as possible and that then leaves me alone. Which when my partner does wake up for a couple hours I'm able to sleep. But nights are the worst and I just don't know what to do I am trying everything. I don't breastfeed but he is really good on his milk. He just does not sleep and I cannot understand why :(

You have my sympathies @mother1999 there's nothing worse than sleep deprivation! are you feeding him back to sleep every time? If so he has probably trained his stomach that he needs a snack every hour. To start with if it's been less than two hours could you try getting him back to sleep without milk? That might help break the habit then eventually you could stretch it to 4 hours which is much more manageable?

Honestly am feeling very sorry for myself. Am currently sat up crying now lol and so even when he has been awake and I have tried everything I try giving him some bottle and he actually declines it anyway so he doesn't necessarily need it to get back to sleep at night he just has it once through the night I'd say. I just cannot catch a break. It is never ending. I wake up and I dread the night straight away it makes me cry my eyes out

Aw it really is horrendous. What's your current set up? Is he in your room or his own room and what normally happens when he wakes up? When my little one used to wake up every hour I used to think it's actually worse to keep getting woken up so sometimes I would just stay up all night! It was so hard!

Also this won't help you now but after a comment from someone at a group who gave me the unsolicited information that their child 'had always slept through the night' my friend told me that you can't have everything and think about the positives of your child. They might have a sleeper but they also might have had a horrific birth, they might have taken 10 years and 5 rounds of ivf to conceive, their child might be really difficult at weaning, they might have had a terrible pregnancy.

I'm not trying to enjoy other peoples misery but everyone faces their own battle with their babies so when people bang on about their good sleepers your child might be a dream in other areas they struggled with. I'm not sure if I've put that the right way but hopefully you get what I mean!

That's so tough. Your baby can't link sleep cycles like mine it seems. It's good baby knows what he needs is comfort not milk so he won't be overfed, but just so hard to keep re-settling all by yourself.
Sleeping through is a developmental skill they will all learn on their own timeline apparently. Not much help to you right now if your partner works nights. The only way I'm coping after mobth

Months of this is by doing shifts

This was us a few years ago. What worked was stopping offering milk bin the night and getting rid of dummy. Once he stopped waking for those he started sleeping roughly 830/9-6/7. When the nap dropped he went to 730-730.

Do you have a partner? We tag teamed for first year. I slept 7-12 then what ever sleep I could grab after. Oh slept 12-630.

This was us with our little one... unfortunately nothing could be done and he just grew out of it in afraid
Just get sleep while and where you can, nap with baby, and just leave your house to your DH to sort ...