Baby awake for chunks in the night.

[L18fos]

Hi, I’m really hoping for some advice as I’m coming to the end of my tether. My little boy is 6m next week and his sleep hasn’t been great. For context he has been on gavisgon for reflux and colic since 2m but this doesn’t really seem to be bothering him as much any more, he’s being less sick and is less upset.

We’ve had every sleep pattern under the sun from waking every 2 hours, waking 2ce, waking once, a couple of nights of actually sleeping through. To be honest this has been one of the hardest parts- going to bed each night not knowing what we will be facing. The issue we’re dealing with now is he is waking up at around 2am and just awake for 2-3 hours- won’t feed, will doze off if you cuddle him but wakes as soon as you put him down (and I do the 20min hold to make sure he’s fully under).
I’ve tried everything from holding to leaving him to it, comforters, (he sleeps with a dummy and Ewan the sheep). My issue is I’m worried about leaving him to it too long in case he wakes my older daughter as even though he’s not kicking off, he’s squealing, chatting away to himself etc. Either way, I can’t sleep if he’s awake so whether I leave him or try to intervene, I’m awake anyway. I’ve brought him into our bed in desperation in the past but trying to stop this as a go to.
Recently weaned him in case he was hungry, made no difference. Moved him into his own room last week in case it was us disturbing him, again made no difference.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!

How does lo go to sleep? Do you rock every single time? Or is lo able to self soothe?

I personally would leave him. Make sure he goes to sleep at bedtime being left in awake as often as possible so he is used to that.

A mix really- sometimes he will go down awake absolutely fine and just drift off and others he is rocked to sleep. This is all new to me as my daughter self settled/went down awake every time and slept through from 12 weeks so I feel like I really don’t know what to do.

I wouldn't rock lo then. Lo can self soothe. I would leave lo in the night unless lo starts getting upset. I know you have another child in there, though. I never went into my lo unless she got upset. I'm mean, though.

Have a look up of split nights. I had them about this age with my lo. Nothing I did solved it. It is usually developmental why my lo did and does it. It could be undertired, overtired, cold, hot, hunger, or developmental.

He might not be tired if he has slept too much in the day.

Mine went through this and in the end I got so annoyed with his happy chattering for hours at a time that I put him in his own room, in the middle of the night one night. And eventually he must have happily fallen asleep as we all woke up the next morning. So I vote leave him to it and lay back down in bed.

If only- he barely sleeps in the day either 😂 2 hours, 21/2 max on an amazing day x

Thanks all will try leaving him to it a little more- I’m just always paranoid about him waking my first as she doesn’t nap in the day no matter how tired! But we used to leave her so maybe just need to do the same with him. I did leave him around 40 mins last night but then caved when it seemed to get louder and was worried about him waking her!