When did your baby sleep through for the first time and then consistently? How did you do it? Experienced with Ferber?

[Mamaof2222]

I am finding the sleep hard to cope with! I need some advice and want to know other people's experiences! I really am struggling and no judgment on the ways I have chosen to tackle his sleeping habits. please!

My LO is 8 and a half months he has NEVER slept through the night.
My partner and i are begining to really struggle and dread night times and it feels it is only getting worse.
Baby eats solids (3 meals a day) and still has milk during the day and still has night feeds (sometimes I think he drinks milk for comfort in night. He also has a dummy during daytime's and heavily relies on it for naps.

So fast forward to a week ago when I got really desperate and tried the dreaded Ferber method (again no judgement).

We always have a bedtime routine I e bath cream and then rocked to bed... Day one of doing Ferber we did his bedtime routine lights off no dummy then put him in his cot. I went back after 3 mins then 5 mins and he screamed then went to sleep after 20 mins.

This has been roughly less and less each time yesterday (day 7) he went to sleep in under one min! But he screamed the most out of all the days.

However he is still waking in the night and his cot is in our room (baby doesn't have nursery) so when he wakes up the next time I end up bringing him in the bed (please tell me if I shouldn't be doing this and should be doing Ferber throughout night aswell).

We said we will do it for 2 weeks if it doesn't work then we will go back to rocking him.

I just feel like I finally got the hang of things now the sleep is just tok much to deal with he wakes up throughout the night sleeps in the end cries and finally gets up for the day at five!

So two main questions:
Am I doing something wrong with Ferber and if yes what is it?

If I ditch Ferber when did your babies start sleeping through the night or without waking and crying!

I really thank anyone who takes time out of their hectic mum life to reply to this thank you!

I think ferber is meant to be done throughout the whole night, being consistent.

If you're happy to cosleep, that's up to you. But I think it's a habit for lo, so lo wakes up expecting it.

Is there a reason lo doesn't have their own room? As that would make it a whole lot easier.

With the dummy, does lo still have it for naps?

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. It's really tough.

We used Ferber with my LO and it worked after three days. But we were consistent, all night applied it. If you're not comfortable doing this then perhaps you can try a different approach. What's his nap schedule like? He may be over or under-tired.

You have to do controlled crying for every wake up for it to work. That means no bringing into bed.

Can baby have their own room?

Give them the dummy as well. If they have it for naps let them have it for night time as well.

You need to do the controlled crying for wake ups too

Mine slept through from about four or five months months consistently. It simply coincided with stopping bf, feeding them porridge at bedtime, putting them in their own darkened room and leaving them. We may have gone back in periodically, this was 20 years ago now, but I don't member it ever being a big deal or hours of to and fro and it never bothered me to leave them to cry a bit.
We later encouraged reliance on blankets and teddies for comfort, and they never ever ever came into our bed.

As others say you can't keep putting them in your bed, or they will keep waking up until you do. Commit to 3 nights where he returns to his cot awake after every feed or cuddle. After that it should be improved.
If you don't have a spare bedroom, you could move out of there and sleep in the living room just for the 3 nights and then go back in. After that it probably won't matter so much if you are in the room, but might be tricky to begin with

12 weeks. Gina Ford daytime routines and pickup put down method.