Moving baby into her own room

[Thefaceofboe]

Just curious when everyone moved baby into their own room. I wanted to stick to 6 months as per the SIDS guidance but my baby has just turned 5 months, so not massively earlier, and really considering it. She’s such a light sleeper and will wake if we roll over in bed and it’s impossible to get up for a wee in the night.

My partner goes to work at 5 and she’s impossible to get back to sleep after this.

Not sure what I’m hoping to achieve here I just want someone to reassure me really

The whole point of her sleeping in your room is to prevent her going into too deep a sleep and stopping breathing. It’s a decision only you can make. Maybe google SIDS risks at different months, it does reduce a bit at 4 months but by the same token some countries say to room in for at least the first year.

I moved DS at 4 weeks and I shared with him in his room until 12 weeks. The first 3 months are the riskiest and even then the risk is fairly low. The guidance is in place for a reason yes, but it’s just that: guidance not law.

I would put partner in other room on working days.

Plenty will say they moved their dc early and they are fine but why increase SIDs risk.

I should say we kept waking each other up, I couldn’t have shared with him any longer. I was counting down the days to 12 weeks in the end.

@PurBal

I moved DS at 4 weeks and I shared with him in his room until 12 weeks. The first 3 months are the riskiest and even then the risk is fairly low. The guidance is in place for a reason yes, but it’s just that: guidance not law.

Actually thought it peaked at 3-4 months but I could be mistaken.

@JustWonderingIfYou I also thought it peaked around then.

It's so tricky! I did ALOT of reading around this with DS and what I learned was that no one knows for definite why sharing a room with your baby reduces the chance of SIDS (although there are lots of theories), since the back to sleep/empty cot advice started the number of SIDS deaths decreased dramatically and the chances of it happening are tiny but it's obviously devastating and there is a significant decrease after 4 months.

With DS we held out until the week before 6 months when DH had a week off work so if it all went up the wall we could catch up on sleep in the day. DD we have just moved at a few days before 6 months. We all slept better as soon as they moved with no dramas and it makes the mornings easier when DH is on an early.

I would put partner in other room on working days

We don’t have another room, only the babies box room nursery. He’s slept on the sofa a few times this week but she still woke up from me moving around so didn’t really help.

I have researched the SIDS risk etc so I appreciate only I can make that decision. I’ve brought her into bed with me and safely co slept a few times but again because she’s such a light sleeper, I can’t even breathe near her too loud or she’s awake

I’m not even bothered about my own sleep but she’s been so miserable during the day recently because she’s so tired.

Also I always wonder with this, they say breastfeeding helps reduce the risk of SIDS but it’s rarely pointed out to a formula feeding mum that they are increasing the risk. Same with dummies.

My baby is BF with a dummy so I suppose in theory I’m already minimising it that way if you were to go by the guidence.

It’s so hard I just want to do what’s best for her.

@Thefaceofboe I do empathise! Do I think moving them a few weeks earlier would have had a different outcome? Probably not.

But had something happened I would never have forgiven myself so held on til the 6 month mark.

@Lockdownmummy

I feel exactly the same Tonight she’s down in her own room but when I do her dream feed at about 11pm, I will put her back in with us. It just means she has a couple of hours peaceful sleep and I can regularly check on her before going to bed.

I don’t think I’d sleep myself if she slept in there all night so I’ll probably just ride it out.

We also have cats that like to scrat at our bedroom door during the night they don’t bother with her room so that’s another reason she gets disturbed.

Id suggest using baby sleeping through as the trigger to move baby to own room.

If your 5 month old isn't sleeping through, chances are that settling her in the night will be significantly harder when not done in your room where you can react quickly.

@FATEdestiny true, but I really don’t think she’s wake half as much without us disturbing her. She slept 8-11pm last night in her own room without waking but once I put her back in with us she woke 4 times between 11pm-4am and then ended up in our bed