16 week old waking frequently, not resettling, I am broken

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I've absolutely had enough now. I just want some sleep and we still have so long to go until I'm going to get any it seems.

Baby is 16 weeks. No idea if he's going through a 4 month regression as we have nothing to regress from.

It's just bloody awful. He is waking often in the night, at least every 2 hours. Sometimes just needs helped back to sleep, sometimes needs a feed. Irs a bloody nightmare trying to resettle him in the crib. He wakes up properly as soon as I put him back down. Thrashed around and kicks his legs. Sometimes he'll finally go back to sleep if I keep my hand on his chest, almost keep his legs pinned down (obviously not using a lot of pressure but just holding them). Other times he just won't. Either way it takes fucking ages and this is with every wake up.

I am absolutely sick of my life as i can't even get time when he goes to bed in the evening as he's started waking every hour or from then, needing resettled.

I can't cope as I have no energy in the day and it makes me so bloody resentful. I feel like this has broken me,

Huge sympathies! My son also woke so frequently I stopped being able to function myself I was so exhausted. It did get better, slowly.

The thing that really helped me was to take a nap with him when I put him down to sleep for the night. I just popped him safely on my bed next to me and I often fell asleep before him, and I got some very much needed sleep for an hour or two!

So much sympathy OP. It will get better - this is not your life forever. I promise!!

Have you tried a Sleepyhead? I think they're called Dock A Tot nowadays actually. You aren't meant to use them for overnight sleep but for naps ours was a total game changer when DD was small. It was literally the only way she would sleep if not on me.

We always co slept and mine was content with that. During the day I slept when he did. It worked for us.

We have been in this stage a while and it’s bloody awful. I have no advice but you aren’t alone

Can you get DH to do the 8pm - 11pm shift at least? Or 6.00-8.00 in the morning? And definitely a longer morning shift at the weekend.

Because yes you can't do much about the baby but you can try to make sure you're getting as much sleep as you can whilst you push through this bit.

My little one has just started sleeping kind of through the night now and he is 20 months. Still wakes once or twice but not as bad. Before this he would be up every hour. Only advice i can give is sleep when he sleeps. Maybe split the nights if you can. Me and my Husband would do a night each and when it was really bad we would split each night in half. Thats the only way we got enough sleep to get through the day. It will pass, just rest when you can. One day he will surprise you like my one has only 20 months on

Tbh this is quite normal. My dd is 14 months and only just started sleeping through. My first didn’t sleep through until she was 18 months.
I think with some of them until they’re on one nap a day and wearing themselves out running about they’re night time sleep is going to be intermittent
It is absolutely horrendous though. You sort of have to accept it and stop worrying that it’s something you’re doing wrong because that takes up a lot of energy.

How are you doing OP?

I was really naive about the sleep thing too. I remember telling a friend who already had two that I wasn't too worried about it as I have such a long hours job and was used to little sleep. She uttered a very justified snort of derision, and probably slightly enjoyed seeing me admit I was on the floor after a few weeks

Hi OP please can you update us how you eventually got on?