20 month old suddenly not sleeping

[FTEngineerM]

Hope someone can help, or point me in the right direction. Pleeeeeaase.

Our 20 month old has began fighting sleep, it’s become chronic.

He used to do:
Wake up 6-630
Nap 11:30-1 ish
Sleep 6:30-7

Now he does:
Wakes 5:30-6:30
Nap 1-3 ish
Sleep 8-9

It’s almost impossible to get him to go to sleep in the night, last night it was 10pm!! Then he was back up at 2-4:30.

We give him a daily magnesium. He self settles in his own room but just gets up/out of bed and we keep putting him back otherwise he plays with toys/books.

He looks hanging. So are we 😂

gets up/out of bed

Being in a bed is the problem. This is far, far too young for a bed.

The cot sides give a sense of security and contentment that helps baby feel less exposed and a feeling of safety. If you need to move baby to a bed so early, you're likely to need to cosleep in that bed with baby. Then your presence replaces that feeling of safety and security.

Go back to the cot. Or cosleep.

If baby was cot climbing, deal with that an solve it. Just removing the cot was never the answer. Keep the cot until at least 3rd birthday. Or cosleep.

You’re wrong FATE, sorry.

He hasn’t ever slept in a cot his entire life.

Started sleeping through when we put him in a bed on his own at 1.

Less awareness at 12 months than at 20 months - as you're finding. They go through another awareness jump around 2-3y - so you'll face similar issues then. Or worsening issues.

You need to find ways of recreating the secure, safe-feeling, enclosed sence that the cot gives.

Bed tent? Cuddly toy? Neither will 'solve' in the way cosleeping would. But may help somewhat.

How about sleeping on a mattress but in your room? That might be a decent compromise. Or you sleep on a seperate bed in the nursery.

PS - I'm defo not wrong. Sorry.

He was just sleeping too long in the day.
Cut his nap down and he’s back to sleeping as he used to.

Not all babies like the secure feeling, some find it scary that they’re ‘trapped’.

Thanks.