I have a theory about co-sleeping

[hunkermunker]

I reckon that those people who go "Ooooh, no, never, what if you roll on the baby, it's dangerous!" probably shouldn't do it, because they're using their own sleep patterns and habits to inform their opinions (fair enough) - and if they feel they'd sleep too deeply for it to be safe, it probably wouldn't be.

But I do wish they'd not pull faces at those of us who sleep lightly enough for it to be fine.

or there are those of us who have happily co-slept.......until it became all too apparent that their darling little DS was sleeping WORSE because of it rather than better.......

We also do as Iota saysa and have the baby up by the pillows - which are pulled far apart almost off the bed to leave a good clear space for him.
No worries about DH rolling on him or him getting covered with duvet. Did the same with DS1, only way to get decent kip if you are breastfeeding IMO....
Dont give a monkies what anyone else thinks about it.

DP has said he has watched me in the night and I was constantly adjusting the covers around the baby, he also said if he got too close to them I would put out an arm and push him away.

I am evangeligal about bedside cots now, had one for DD2 wish I had one for DD1, great extension to your bed although once DD2 could move she snuggled across most nights. Actually I am pretty sure DD2 fed in the night and I only partially woke up. DP used to say she would be snuggled into me and I would be asleep boob hanging out.

Now they are in their own rooms I do sleep more deeply or just pretend I don't hear them then DP gets up

IceQueen, I know what you mean, DD1 woke twice a night for a feed (2+5am )until one night DH went to sleep in teh spare room as he had an early shift and I went for a cuddle and fell asleep, and she slept through until5am.
We moved her to her own room the netx day!

DS1 was horrendous - we never intended to co-sleep (well what did we think that cot at the end of the bed ready for the baby was for )....but he had other ideas and wouldn't sleep on his own...so he came into bed with me from day one (even at the hospital !). At 6 months old he was still waking hourly for a feed, and fussing around for around 1hr.....ALL night - after trying everything else people had recommended we tried to get him to sleep on his own in the end we bit the bullet and put him in his own cot, in his own room and did CC with him......

He slept through the very first night and we never looked back!

People are so silly about cosleeping. I was just told by friends that it was dangerous for me to sleep with huge 18 month old, who's more than half my size. I tried to tell them I was in more danger of being squashed than he was (he tends to roll on my head at times) but then they just told me that I should give him his independence. He's 18 months, fgs! This was also while their children were clinging to their legs while mine was off happily (independently) playing...