How to gently stop cosleeping/nursing to sleep

[fireandsaga]

Hello!
my 8-month-old is BF and has one bottle before bed (due to her tongue tie my supply went down).
After a bad cold at 6 months, i decided to cosleep so we both got some sleep and sanity, but since then she hates being put back into the cot (super warm mummy and milk on demand so i totally get it haha)
Its getting close to needing to go back to work and have my partner settle her down in the evening, ive posted on a gentle sleep advice facebook group but instead of helpful advice i get people asking why i am stopping and that i shouldnt stop!
She is not going in her own room she just needs to sleep in the cot, and i refuse to do any cry it out methods... i would continue this way but as i said about work and my back and nipple are sore too

Would really appreciate help!

by the way i am not stopping breastfeeding i just would like some advice that she can sleep without sucking on nipple... she spits dummys out also

Move towards detaching her gently before you put her in the cot. So it's two moves rather than one.
I also used to jiggle mine a bit to slightly wake them before putting them down, then sssh pat.

Stop feeding her to sleep at all. When she nods off wake her up again.

I found pick up put down very gentle as no crying involved.

However it will take time and be likely be exasperating to start with.

Get DH to take time off work and let him be the one to settle her into the cot after you have fed her. You both need to be totally committed tbh.

Each time I detach or gently put her into cot she cry’s, if I put her in cot she cry’s and if I pick up she cry’s 🥴 I guess it’s just persistence ? I feel so harsh

Yes it's persistence and remembering crying is communication and you aren't leaving her alone to scream/cry.

Pick her up and soothe for as long as needed.

Could you try your DH putting her to bed. So your not in the room for a few days whilst he gets her to sleep. Then have him sleep next to the cot. Slightly different age/scenario but when I went back to work DD still bf a lot during the day. I thought it was going to be awful. However she was absolutely fine she just didn't see bf as an option because I wasn't there.