Where am I going wrong? Nearly 8 month old

[Babyontheway21]

He sleeps all night so I really can’t complain but I hear people saying their baby is in bed sleeping by 7/8pm. I’m guessing this is what he should be doing for his own sake too. Over the last month it has got better he is usually sleeping for 9:30/10 and gets up around 8/8:30am. (Between 6 and 7 months he was sometimes still awake at 11)What can I do to help him get to sleep earlier, I have managed to get him to sleep earlier you doing his bedtime routine earlier (bath/bottle) but he will wake up 40 minutes later treating it like a nap. Or is what he is doing now ok? I’m fine with it as long as I’m not doing him any harm.

If it suits you go with it. The way I would bring it all back is to wake lo up at 7 am. Then, everything is brought back. As the next 2 or 3 naps are brought earlier, which in turn bedtime brought earlier. Will take lo a few days or so to adjust

I'd go with it if it's suits you and not worry. He's getting 10-11 hours a night which is pretty standard. Likely if he goes to bed at 7/8, he'll be up at 6/7 and getting the same amount of sleep.
It's easy to change if you want but depends whether you prefer the lie in or down time in the evening.

If you want him to go to bed earlier, I think you'd need to accept earlier mornings.

So, if it suited you. Wake him a bit earlier each day to slowly move his morning wake time to 6:30ish. As he needs about 11 hours sleep at night, this will then mean his bedtime will gradually fall back to 7:30/8pm.

You'd also probably need to adjust daytime naps to start moving them onto the new schedule too. What's day sleep like at the moment?

Early mornings don’t bother my I am up anyway. I just didn’t know if he should be in his bed earlier but I suppose he does get the hours he needs. He sleeps for 40 mins at 9:30/10, 1.5hrs around 12 and then about 40 mins about 4.

If it suits you and your baby its absolutely fine! The clocks will change again next month, so I don’t see the point in trying to change the time for the sake of it.
Also, your baby might change their routine anyway with growth spurts, starting nursery or just on their own merry whim :)

I was just worried when I heard mums at a group saying theirs are sleeping a lot earlier than mine I thought to myself oh maybe I’m wrong. I don’t mind early morning but I equally don’t mind not getting time to myself at night either so I guess I’ll just go with the flow for now and see what he does.

Think about this logically. Why exactly do you think he needs to be asleep at a certain time? Honestly just go with what the baby does. I spent 1.5 years with my baby following her routine. She would fall to sleep around 11pm and wake frequently, because babies need to be reassured they are safe, feed, and they wake up to do this. She would sleep until 10am and we would go about our day. I let her nap when she wanted to nap, feed when she wanted to feed, and just be a baby.

Are you trying to conform to society’s rules without knowing why? It's a baby, it has no concept of schedules. Let the circadian rhythm guide you, not a clock.

My daughter is now six and sleeps well. We put her in her own room aged two. I treasure those two years of her being beside me, but the night feeding got too much. But for now, just enjoy your baby.

I would try to cut out that last nap or bring it earlier by an hour. Which ever is easier.

Thank you for your comments. I’ll just go with what I’m doing and maybe try bring the last nap forward and his last feed. As I said I really can’t complain he sleeps all night. I just wasn’t sure if he was maybe going to bed too late but I understand what you are saying. He will lead me for now

I don't think there's anything "wrong" with what he's doing per se... it just depends on what suits you like others have said.
That said, I'd be surprised if he needs 3 naps for much longer, that's a fair bit of daytime sleep. You might find that with a bit less he'll sleep longer at night.