What to do when no form of sleep training works?

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I have a 10 nearly 11 month old who used to be able to be put down and would self settle. He’s had a period of teething, sleep regression and lots of colds and since this can not do it. I have tried PUPD, shush pat and controlled crying nothing works. He just gets more wound up. Controlled crying is not an option as he makes himself sick.

He’s waking all night long, I’ve tried co-sleeping and he still wakes all night long. Also trying to wean him at night but he gets so upset and nothing seems to calm him so have given in and fed him.

Any advice on what to do if sleep training just isn’t working?

Not what you want to hear, but ride out the storm. It won't last forever.

I know you’re probably right I think when you’re in it it’s hard to see that the phase will ever end… hopefully it will

I also say ride it out. I tried controlled crying etc when mine was about 11 months old. I was going back to work and she was starting nursery so wanted her to be able to sleep on her own so I could get on with stuff in the evening after work. Never happened.

We cosleep & she wakes up once maybe twice a night but has got so much better. I'm sure sometimes she even sleeps through.

She's gone from having to be fed and then rocked about - literally me pacing up and down. To me just feeding and patting her bum. To now laying next to me having a quick feed and drifting off with no movement.

There were nights where I'd literally be up every 2 hours and it felt like I never slept.

At her dads and at nursery she falls asleep on her own.

If deffo gets better :)

You don’t want to hear it but you need to night wean…. Get your husband to settle him one night or shhh pat in bed or something but at 11 months it’s likely what’s getting him up so much

I did do controlled crying with my daughter when she was 14 months and it worked really well so I think I’m going to wait until then and hopefully things improve and then try some sleep training again.

I definitely need to night wean yes, he is formula fed. I think I’m going to wait until he’s over this cold, and then I’ll go cold turkey on the night feeds. It’s the added trickiness with number 2 as don’t want to wake his sister up through him crying for the feed.