I need help , 5 month old baby.

[nichola1989]

Heya,

So my 5 month old is only getting maybe 60 minute of sleep throughout the day , 20 minutes intervals. It's definitely not enough and it is showing by how grumpy baby is.

Any advice this has been happening for a long time now so it's not a passing phase situation.

Appreciate all and any advice

Have you tried resettling? Where's lo sleeping in day?

Is lo sleeping at night?

We need to know a typical day please, wake time, nap times, bedtime

@ChittyBang1987 during the day he is napping his his room. I have tried resettling. And he won't.

@YellowLemonz

Wake up 7am
Ready for a nap 9am
Wake up 920am
Try resetting, stays awake very grumpy until 1130am
Nap 1130am
Awake 12pm
Nap time 3pm
Awake 320pm
Ready for Bed 630pm as he's so exhausted.
Wakes up 930pm has a quick feed back to sleep
Asleep 10pm-230
Quick feed 230am-245am
Back asleep to 5am quick feed back to sleep at 515am
Wake up 7-am

White noise?
Does he self settle?

Can you bring his nap times earlier. At 5m I think 9am with a 7am wake time is a bit long. I seem to remember we started nap at 8.45 at that time and he was on the edge…. Honestly 15mins can make such a difference. For the first few days it might be a struggle to get him to go down earlier but after a while he should get it. If that works then do the same with the others.

My DS used to always wake during his lunchtime nap and I always had to go into him and lie with him to get him to resettle. Otherwise he would be awake all afternoon. I eventually admitted I didn’t mind this at all and used to use that as my daytime nap (which I needed and appreciated!). A longer morning nap should make him sleep better at lunch but if not lie with him in case it’s that and then the afternoon should sort itself out. I think I did 3.45-4 (it wasn’t long).

Stick at it for a few days. It take a few days to make a new habit at 5m

Good luck.

Have you tried napping with the baby? As in getting into bed, even if not asleep? I found that kept the baby under or if they stirred a quick pat and back rub helped sometimes? Sounds tough

When do you feed lo? Are you putting lo down with full belly?

@ChittyBangs thank you he does not see settle and have tried white noise prior which didn't make a difference

@Whatamess582

Thank you , I will be sure to give it a go it maybe just what he needs. So thank you I will let you know how it goes after 7 days

@sauceyorange
I have done this a few times but my 2yo is at home with us. So it can be difficult to do this sometimes. I've also notice it doesn't make any difference.

@ChittyBang1987 yes he usually feeds before I put him down then he burped and rocked to sleep. And wakes and tends to want to feed more. Do you think he may still be hungry. I have thought this myself sometimes.

Try him sleeping in a sling or pushchair. But at this age short naps are really common. They may lengthen as he consolidates down to two naps.

It could be. Maybe a bit trial and error. I'm assuming your ebf?

Have you tried feeding little one in room when stirs from nap? Like a night waking, so to speak.

In the long term, you may want to when lo is older to get away from that. As that's Los crutch, along with rock. But the main thing is to get longer naps.

I would feed when wakes. Feed when about to be put down. Feed when wakes from nap to try and resettle.

Awake times are 2 to 2.5 hours at this age. The other thing you could try but can be a dangerous one causing overtiredness. Is stretching awake times. As lo is only sleeping short naps.

Another thing. Is perching by cot when you know lo is going to wake and start tapping or holding lo chest. Have a search on how to lengthen naps. There's loads of advice on here x

@ChittyBang1987 thank you so much, will do!

What's so crazy is my 2yo was the worst night sleeper , sleeping only 2 hour lengths up to 6 month old but he would also have 3-4 2 hour naps in the day at this age. When we tried to lengthen the night time naps we tried keeping him awake longer throughout the day and it was the worst mistake. He ended up being so unsettled and the night time almost seemed as if he got so stressed throughout the day it affected his night time sleeps.

I feel my little one now is a better night sleeper but a horrible day sleeper. But still can wake 3-4 times.

He's growing well. But I worry about him.

I could have written this. 4 months old and 30 min naps, he’s exhausted and won’t resettle. It’s so hard with toddler too as I can’t devote myself to getting baby to nap as I did with DS1.

Good luck and let us know how you get on. What works for one baby doesn't work for another.

@MrsCremuel we are so lucky that my partners parents love taking the grandchildren. They take my oldest son for the night once a week. I can take the time to lay with baby and because it's so quite he sleeps so well. So it definitely is such a huge difference when your got a toddler running around the house.

I can't make him be quite or stop him from being a kid so it's just something we try to work around.

I think the worst part is that I know my 5 month old is so grumpy becUse he needs more sleep.