Sorry if this is a bit long but Ive exhausted all other avenues so thought I'd try here for some advice.
My 13m old has never been a good sleeper. After about 4m it just got worse and worse. The maximum hes slept is around 5hrs at a time and that's very very rare. I'm still breastfeeding, he only gets fed at bedtime and a million times through the night 😂 he is rocked to sleep and has never fell asleep independently. He has been in his own cot in his own room since 6 months (thought this would help) He goes down into his cot every night, and usually sleeps for anything between 2 and 4/5hrs. It averages about 3. Then, if it's me and my fiancé is working the only way I can settle him is boob. If my partner, he used to go back to sleep with a cuddle but now is refusing and getting himself in a state to get me. If he doesn't settle with me, he's brought into our bed as we're both working full time and just don't have the energy to sit up awake in his room. He'll then maybe sleep another 3/4 hours, but then wakes and moans like mad until fed to go back to sleep. He then can wake hourly for milk until waking in the morning to get up. He seems uncomfortable also, I think he would be much happier in his big cot.
What I suppose I'm asking for is advice on how to wean. I love feeding him but when he goes to my mums he gets expressed milk at bedtime, then 4oz at midnightish then another 4 if he wakes again. This should probably be stopping as he doesn't need the calories as he eats well. He sleeps great at my mums, albeit still in the habit of waking for milk. I feel he would sleep much better if I weaned him off of me. But how on earth do I start! That is the question. Any advice would be much appreciated from a very tired and drained Mum 😴