Bedtime for 9 week old

[claraenglish]

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It's totally natural to feel this way. After all, basic instinct tells you to keep your baby close.
I never "got over" this and co-slept with all 4 of mine, not introducing "proper" bedtimes until later than most people.
But I am happy and my dcs are secure and confident.
I'm sure you'll find the system that works best for you all. Good luck

Wait until you're ready. There's no "magic/right" time.

Why does your DP sleep on the sofa? Can he not share the bed with you both?

Pop the baby up at head height, this way when you pull the duvet up it won't cover the baby. Have the baby start the night on your outside.

I think if your DP gets to sleep in his own bed he'll begin to feel happier straight away.

It's a wonderful time those first weeks.

hi clara - i did the same with dd when she was that age, mainly as me and dp wanted some evening time back. I was breastfeeding, and just used to breastfeed in a dark room and wait for her to get sleepy and then put her in her moses basket and leave. It was weird at first but you will get used to it and you will begin to relax and enjoy your evenings. You could wait a couple of weeks, or longer, but my experience was that by 9 weeks we needed to start getting some routine and regularity into our lives and it worked for us to start then. You are probably right that he is starting to be more aware, so that noisy tv and lights will disrupt his sleep and although i am sure there wil be others on soon with differing views, we felt that dd needed a proper bedtime wind-down at that age. Good Luck!

sorry, forgot to say that i often used to take dd in to bed with me later on during the night if she woke and wouldn't settle on her own, and i was breastfeeding 2 or 3 times a night at that age. But we still had a bedtime routine that involved her going to sleep on her own so that me and dp had some time together in the evening.

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Not dramatic darling.

A quick suggestion for DP. Could he wear earplugs to that he doesn't hear the noises? That way should you need him in the night you can simply tap him to wake him. Also... what if DS is in bed with you for 6 months, 2 years etc...

It's about 14 weeks before it's worth putting cues in place for the baby. But all it is is simply consistency. Eg... bath, massage, feed, bed. Every evening the same routine. The cues start to kick in and aa nice pattern starts to form.

It's still early days.

A bedside cot is not a bad solution actually. Or if the cot you have (do you have a cot) has it's mattress on the same level as your bed. I agree not really different to having the baby in bed with you... but DPs... what can you do? lol

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The secret my angel is consistency. Don't worry about bringing things forward. If that time works it works. If earlier works it works.

The key is to enjoy your boy and for you and your DP to enjoy each other again (but be careful not to enjoy each other so much that you get a shock at the 6 week cheek! )

It sounds like you have it all sorted really. You could always get your DP to have a bath with the baby. (Just another of those wee bonding things that works very well). I used to love having mine in the bath with me. Cooler than I'd like but once they were out I'd hit the hot tap and do my boil in the bag routine!

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