One month old cries constantly

[Poppyfig18]

My LO is one month old and cries all the time. The only thing that stops her crying is feeding her (BF). Changing her nappy or getting her changed causes a complete melt down which is only resolved by feeding her. The only way she will go to sleep is by BF her.
I literally cannot comfort her at all. The crying is next level high pitched and she looks distraught. Ive tried to keep offering her the boob but then she throws it up which then results in needing to be changed and the circle starts again!
Today she has only had 2 hours sleep all day, the rest has been spent crying! It's ruining being able to enjoy these precious days. HELP! I'M LOOSING MY MIND

Hiya, I had something quite similar. Turns out I was winding properly/often enough, but it could be a range of things. Hope it gets better soon

Mine came out like that as well.

Maybe she has pain. Sometimes being born can leave them with headaches or some other kind of pain.

Do you swaddle? I know it's maybe outdated but they can like being wrapped up a bit.

Have you tried a dummy? Sucking is a comfort for them

Sorry you're going through this. It's really very hard. Mine was like this too and he had silent reflux/colic. Honestly the first few months are just survival mode and you just do what you need to do to survive. I held him a lot, we slept together etc. he also liked the swaddle. He enjoyed the dummy. He was also an extremely windy baby so likely in discomfort from that. Infacol helped with that. It does get easier as they get bigger and develop more. Do you have people to support you?

Could it be reflux or silent reflux? Sounds like my baby when she was born. We put her on infant gaviscon and it sorted it. 3 midwives and 2 doctors missed it, kept saying she had trapped wind. HV finally suggested it

The world is scary especially when you’ve been tucked up in a womb. Have you tried a sling? Skin to skin contact can be really comforting.
Cluster feeding?
Colic? Reflux?

I found this post really helpful when my baby was this age. It's really really hard but also really common. Sending you all the love. You're doing great.

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3 ebf children here and all fed constantly for the first 3-4 months.

I wouldn't consider introducing a dummy this early- you're still establishing your milk supply. Definitely try extended winding after every feed though. Ds2 had to be held upright/winded for 30mins after every feed, it was exhausting.

Totally normal for newborns to want to be on you at all times too whether bf or not. Slings are helpful as is learning to tell other people to do stuff (like make you tea, fetch biscuits, go out with baby so you can wash without a screaming soundtrack etc)

Sounds like my own baby at that age. It lasted until at least 4 months when his interest in the wider world distracted him from his discomfort. Turns out he DID have Cows Milk Protein and Egg allergy (as I had suspected and ask HV and Dr about several times and been dismissed). He wasn't diagnosed until 6 months.

The poor thing also had tongue tie which can cause wind and poor intake of milk. Look for a qualified TT practitioner for a check and look out for dips in weight gain.

It is horrible when nothing consoles them. I really feel for you. It was so hard. Look after yourself and try to get a break when you can.

Could they have tongue tie? They're crying because they aren't getting enough milk if so

How was she delivered @Poppyfig18? Mine was ventouse and has a slight spine misalignment as a result. After a couple of very gentle sessions with a chiropractor the crying eased.

We're at 8 weeks and in a similar place.
Shes had cranial osteopathy, ruled out tongue tie, is on omeprazole for silent reflux but tbh I think she just needs to grow some more and get a bit more ised to being here.
Things that do help are having a bath together, having background noise (usually smooth radio or white noise), feeding on demand which can be constantly some days and extended winding but I'd say she's still not a happy baby and also isn't the best sleeper.
It's so hard, you just have to do what you can to get through the days

Mine was like that. Cows milk allergy through my milk was making her really really uncomfortable. Maybe try an eliminate diet for you?

Reflux. See a doctor, you won't regret it

DC1 was like this. She did later have medical investigations as it went on so long but no cause was identified and she gradually grew out of it. At 3.5 she's still a very sensitive and emotional preschooler who is easily bored and easily frustrated, I think it was partly just her personality! Also like yours she hardly napped and so I think some of it was being overtired. Have you got the Huckleberry app? I found that helpful and wish I'd found it sooner as I don't think I got it until she was about 4/5mo with DC1 but the 'sweetspot' feature really helped me to get her to nap. She had a dummy which we used a LOT but she was combi-fed from 6 weeks and gradually weaned on to being bottle fed from 12 weeks, I'd be wary of too much dummy use now if you want to continue BF. Even DC2 who doesn't scream all the time was feeding basically non-stop in the early months. He's 3 months and only the last week or two has slowed down into a roughly two hourly daytime BF routine! For DC1 she only really napped in the baby carrier or pram or car, the first two whilst briskly walking and would awake as soon as you stopped and often would scream for 10-15 mins til she conked out. It is so stressful but your child will outgrow this - it gets so so much better, I promise. Also look after yourself - if you are feeling the strain (as we were!!), speak to your GP or HV for support.