AIBU about husband

[Mazzatron]

Hi all

My husband is on a big self improvement drive lately which I am all for but part of it is him getting up at 5am to go and use his new rowing machine.

Basically he's woken the kids up doing this. They are 3 and 8 months. I've worked really hard with the 3 year old dropping his nap and starting to finally sleep in longer (was always an early riser getting up at 5:30 but now sleeps til 6:30).

I'm so annoyed but tried to speak to him about it and he got really annoyed back at me like I'm ruining his new routine.

We've only got a small house so sound travels around easily.
Is it unreasonable to tell him I don't want him to do this and to find another time to row?!

You are not unreasonable!!! With children that age sleep comes before anything!!!

I do understand and respect your H wants to get some exercise but if he wants to do it at that hour he’ll have to find something more quiet, like running outdoors or the gym.

I sometimes get up at 5 for a workout but I literally sneak out of the house in the dark without waking anyone!

Um, YANBU. At all. He's a selfish wanker.

YANBU. If he wakes the DC up by exercising he should parent the DC. If very early mornings are really his best or only available time slot to exercise he should go out of the house - and not at times that’d leave you to do all the morning parenting either.

DH should leave the house to exercise if it's small house and noise travels rather than wake you and Dbabies up

Id be turning full lights on and waking him random times I am up if he carries on!

Thanks all. I'm going to ask him to put the rowing machine in the garage in the garden and see how that goes.
So annoying! As someone said sleep comes first

How long is he rowing for? How much earlier than usual is he getting up?

It would help if he just got up, staggered into his clothes and then rowed for 20-30 minutes.

He was previously getting up when the kids wake up st 6:30. He rows for 30 mins. He's got to take the dog out also before starting work at 9. I don't understand why it has to be 5am thing. It's making me so cross the more I think about it, particularly how annoyed he was at me for telling him it's unfair this morning 😤

There are 4 in your house and this benefits 1 to the detriment of 3. So he needs a solution like the garage for him to gain the benefit but without impacting on others sleep (and sleep is paramount here)
It isn’t unfair it is life. He needs to stop being a selfish arse

If he wakes them up does he then deal with them or does he expect you to?

@SmolCat

If he wakes them up does he then deal with them or does he expect you to?

It’s not just about that though in my opinion. They’re going to be tired later in the day and that’s not fair on them.

Sorry to say but I feel that's very selfish of your husband. I'm all for getting fit. But little ones come first and they need their sleep, as they going to be grumpy now x

Yes, an angry response to being challenged about his behaviour is crap!

Why can't he go for an early run or dog walk and then use the machine once everyone else is awake? He sounds like a selfish knob- sorry.

@Lancssss I agree, I was just trying to get my head around why he thinks it’s ok. Maybe he doesn’t see it as so much of a problem because in his mind he’s dealing with the (immediate) consequences.

[quote SmolCat]@Lancssss I agree, I was just trying to get my head around why he thinks it’s ok. Maybe he doesn’t see it as so much of a problem because in his mind he’s dealing with the (immediate) consequences.[/quote]
Fair enough. I bet OP says he expects her to deal with them both when they wake though anyway…