4 week old sleep advice

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FTM here bumbling along and wondering if I could get a few opinions on my 4 week old DD’s sleep patterns!

I’ve been keeping a sleep log as I read that she should be averaging about 18 hours a day and she’s having 13-15 hours so I’m worried her deficit isn’t good for her. She has a witching hour window most evenings from 5-9pm and there isn’t much I can do to settle her and I’ve tried everything! During the day too it’s a job to keep her asleep - she’s mega alert. Is this generally quite normal or does anyone think I should be doing more to get her down? She’s great during the nights it’s just the daytime. I work around her schedule so to speak and don’t try to put her down during the day for set nap times unless I see signs of tiredness as she just cries - is this the right thing to do or should I try to encourage naps?

Me personally when my wee one was born and now 8 months old is always been wide awake during the day if she did fall asleep it was a wee 20 minutes if your lucky but I just left it like that cause she sleeps good at night xx

What is she doing at night for 4w

I nudge babies into a routine 3hr daily

In that 3 hour cycle they will have a feed. Awake time and sleep - usually 1/1.5hr max awake time then sleep for 1/1.5hrs till next feed

At 4 weeks old, I would follow baby's lead completely. Work on rough wake windows and follow her cues. The only thing I did as a routine at that age was a bedtime routine (which sometimes meant going to the bedroom at 8pm and she wouldn't actually fall asleep until 12am, but at least we were in a dimly lit, quiet room) as that helped her to learn the difference between day & night.

I wouldn't bother with set nap times at this age as they'll change so much depending on her night sleep, length of naps, etc.

Her cues will become easier to read as she gets older congratulations on your new arrival!

HELP🤣

My son is 2 next month hes never been a great sleeper, but for a period of 3-4 months he slept through but this all stopped about mid december. Id put him in his cot no problem say night and leave but he would wake about 3- 4 and i could either settle him or he wouldnt settle but would in our bed ( big mistake i know 🤦‍♀️)

In january one night i put him down as usual then heard him 10 mins later i went up and he was on the landing had climbed out of his cot this continued so i coverted it to a bed.

Since then its gone from bad to worse he now will only fall asleep with me in the room if i leave he screams and throws all his bedding etc over the gate on his on door. He wakes at around 11pm but once i go in he walks him self to bed and goes back off he then can wake again between 1-3 either will demand a bottle and go back to sleep or scream but may sleep in our bed or can be awake for 2-3 hours but active wont try and sleep or be peaceful.

Hes pulled 3 all nighters - ive tried everything crying it out, controlled crying, longer naps in day shorter ones .. im now losing the will to live and just dont know what else to try.

Any advice tips would be appreciated 🙏