I have a 2 year old and a 5 week old ...husband is back at work now and often works late so bedtime and nap times are down to me. If I’m lucky enough that newborn is asleep I can get toddler to bed fairly easily...she sleeps in own room till about 3am then cosleeps. I sit with her in own room till she falls asleep then leave.
However...if newborn is awake and I’m feeding her which is often at that time of evening..toddler is being a monkey and I think has sussed out that I can’t chase her around the room putting her back in bed while feeding. I firmly keep asking her to get back in bed and praising her when she gets in bed but it’s getting worse and she totally ignores me..bedtime goes on for 1.5+ and nap times often don’t happen. I just don’t know what to do..newborn is fussy in the evenings so I can’t breastfeed hands free very easily need to do breast compressions. Do I ignore the behaviour and put baby gate over room but I stay on o side of bedroom and just wait for her to get bored (at moment she’s started trying to wander out into the hall..I have to stop feeding to go get her..this then becomes a game). I know it’s normal for toddlers to act out with new baby and I don’t blame her but feel like I’m failing and I don’t know how to handle the situation.