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12 week old baby bed time, advice place

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 18:14

My LO has been very troublesome sleeper but has recently started to SOMETIMES
Do a long stretch of sleep when she goes down at night. She is Bf to sleep in the dark at about 8:30 after a bath. She usually goes down ok then cab do anywhere from 1-7 hours, usually 3-4. But the issue is, she us usually not great after that and I have to co sleep as she won't go back in the crib. So thus is the best chunk of time to sleep. But I'm not always ready to sleep! I've had problems sleeping since having her so I have to take mild sleeping pills but they sometimes don't work. It also means our evenings are non existent.... Me tried once to out her down at 7 but she just woke after 45 mins like it was a nap and didn't sleep well after. What's shall I do?!

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 18:16

Oops sorry for the typos! Please help.

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Mummmaa · 20/12/2021 18:47

My lo at that age went to bed with is at 9/10 and fed every 2-3 hours in the night. He did this untill he started solids. Have you tried a next to me cot? We transitioned co sleeping into a next to me, starting off with my head beeing in the cot and my hand on him (very uncomftable but it helped the transition) then just my hand on him then slowly moved my hand more and more off untill it was fully out the crib 😂 i did find wrapping the matteess with one of my pre worn tops or having his sheet on my pillow for a night or two so my scent was on it helped too!

Thebathneedscleaned · 20/12/2021 18:51

I don't quite understand why you need to go to sleep when she does?

When my two were that young we either had them sleep in the moses basket downstairs with us or we watched telly in the bedroom with them in the moses basket. They didn't really "go down for the night" until about 10pm at that age either.

Evenings properly to myself weren't really a thing until about 5 months when they started going to bed at 7pm.

IDontDrinkTea · 20/12/2021 18:53

Please don’t cosleep after taking sleeping tablets 😬

Lazypuppy · 20/12/2021 18:57

Put her to bed much later. Just have her downstairs with you in a moses basket or something while she sleeps, you still get your evening, then put her to bed upstairs when you go up to bed

PiesNotGuys · 20/12/2021 18:59

I’d put her to bed at about 11pm and go to bed at the same time. Then I’d get the 1-7 hours at the right time for me and that might mean only one wake up which is astonishingly good for 12 weeks.

My youngest DC liked to do the longest stretch of sleep from about 6am onward, just as the house was waking up to go to work and the older dc to school, so could rarely actually do the long stretch and was constantly grumpy as a result.

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 18:59

They are just anti-histamines and I am still very aware of everything so much that they often don't work...

The issues is that if I don't sleep when she does I loose her best chunk of sleep as I find it hard to sleep as she's so unsettled after her first wake up..

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 19:06

But if she goes to bed later then won't she need to be awake for a while beforehand so she is tired enough?

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Lazypuppy · 20/12/2021 19:13

At 12 weeks old, baby should be sleeping for around 12-15hours a day.

My dd used to sleep in the evening on and off then go to sleep properly at 11pm when i went to bed.

HollyChristmas · 20/12/2021 19:16

Have you checked its ok to bf and take anti histamines as a form of sleeping pill ?

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 19:17

My Dd doesn't really do that, she did a while ago but now doesn't like the busy living room and doesn't really sleep on and off as you suggest...

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HollyChristmas · 20/12/2021 19:17

Which antihistamines are safe during pregnancy and breastfeeding?
Studies of the non-sedating antihistamines, loratadine and cetirizine, show low levels of transfer into breast milk and these would be considered the preferred choice antihistamines for a breastfeeding mother.

HollyChristmas · 20/12/2021 19:18

Which ones are you taking ?

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 19:18

@HollyChristmas yes I'm not careless. They were prescribed by a specialist perinatal pharmacist.

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EcoCustard · 20/12/2021 19:23

All mine had a bath, feed and then slept in the Moses basket downstairs or sat in the bouncer/playmat next to what ever we were doing. Mine all woke for a feed or change at about 10-11pm after a short burst of sleep then I would put them down in their cot or co-sleep. All but one were poor sleepers and woke frequently I just got by on very little sleep or alternated feeding with DH, (expressed or formula). I only remember having evenings in the first fortnight of Dc1 being born and last year when Dc4 was18 months. If the sleeping pills or antihistamine don’t really help don’t take them, I wouldn’t if possibly co-sleeping no matter how mild. I struggled to sleep after all my kids were born, presumed it was some sort of pre programmed reaction so able to respond to them.

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 19:50

Thanks for the advice everyone, I just don't think she'd sleep well from 11 if she was sleeping all evening. She's a very alert baby (many people including professionals have said this) and I think needs to be stimulated to be tried enough to sleep. When we've been out and about and awake for long periods she sleeps a lot better....

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 19:51

@EcoCustard I understand what you're saying but I can't survive on no sleep at all which was what I was getting..

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PiesNotGuys · 20/12/2021 20:11

I’m not suggesting she sleep all evening, but that you change her bedtime to yours, or a little before yours.

I would take my dc to bed with me at my bedtime, I did concede a couple of hours to them, so my usual bedtime is 12-1, so I’d take them up at about 11 and do their bedtime at the same time as mine then we’d settle down for the ‘long sleep’ part you are referencing together.

That has the advantage of giving you your evenings back and taking advantage of the long sleep. Win win?

You can always push the bedtime forward again once you are ready to put the dc in another room to sleep in the evening.

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seaswim33 · 20/12/2021 20:22

Thanks @PiesNotGuys we did used to have a later bedtime but she seemed to want to go to bed earlier as she was very cranky.... When would they have an evening nap then?

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PiesNotGuys · 20/12/2021 20:28

We never had set nap times. But you could always push it back half an hour a day or so if you do have a routine. Or, just start a new way one day and see what happens.

It would make you more mobile in the evenings so you could go out and about with dc if you think she’d like the stimulation, it’s a lovely time really when they are portable and before you commit to a bedtime. If you have a partner and they dont work in the evenings it also means they have more time together and that you have more help around.

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