Wits end with 10 month old constant night wakings

[RaginaPhalange]

For the last 6 weeks maybe more my 10 month old is constantly waking at night and I don't think I can take much more of it.

He's still in our room, usual routine for bed is, bath, Pj's, bottle, bed.

He used to wake after 45 mins then was easily enough put back to sleep without us picking him up, he still does this but takes longer to put him back down. Then as soon as midnight hits he's probably up 10 or more times. We try not to take him out his cot but there has been a few times where he's been stood and then lost his balance and hurt himself so is given a cuddle.

For day time naps, he will only nap on us, in the car or pram. If he's in his cot he will only nap 45 mins at most.

It's really starting to affect my mh. I cry at least once a day. I dread the nights.

Hi hun, my DS was just like this. We got to our whits end with it and in the end we did sleep training, it really worked! When people are if we did cry it out we had to correct them because it really wasn't that bad. If you look it up on the internet you start by giving them their milk, then putting them down in the cot drowsy but awake, they will screen the house down but you go in after 5 min intervals to start, go in and in a calm voice say "it's bed time now, time to go to sleep" and kiss them on the head, then leave and keep doing this until they eventually tyre out and fall asleep.
It feels harsh but it's almost a cruel to be kind thing. It worked very quickly with my DS at 11 months old.

The reason they get like this is because they associate sleep with falling asleep on you, then when they have a regression it's hard work. If you get them in the habit of self settling the they soon associate the cot with sleeping. Hope this helps!! X

Thanks @wineislife21

I think he really needs his own space don't think it helps he's in with us when we're moving about. My dh wants to try crying it out but I'm a little more anxious, I think he would end up making himself sick and I absolutely hate his cry. No matter whats wrong it's always a scream.

I know I really need to get him to nap in the cot. I think that's obviously part of the issue as well.

I wasn't so anxious with our first, he was in his own room at 5 months and only had an odd night when I've of us would sleep on the floor in his room at 3am. Not really sure where all the anxiety has came from.

Yep, sleep training. He'll cry but you know the difference between crying because he's ill or hurt and 'hang on a second ,wtf is going on, mum and dad don't normally do this so I'll complain!'

It'll be better for all of you.

Update: have moved him into his own room. 1st night slept through. Last night up at 4am for about 40 mins. Tonight is currently screaming even though so tired.