Dummy?

[rsp123]

Hi everyone - first post on MN and needing some advice please!
I have a 4 month DD, we're exclusively breastfeeding which is mostly going well. We introduced a Dummy over the last month although I'm now struggling to know what to do at night.

DD tends to go to sleep (fed to sleep) at 8:30pm and wakes up every 3 hours (midnight then 3/4am). I normally give her the dummy for the first wake up and she goes back to sleep in my arms and then the next wake up I stress that it's been so long since her last feed and I feel slightly engorged so I feed her but she doesn't do a good feed.

Im confused and not sure if she needs feeding or just comfort. She's never been a "self-soother" and now needs some sort of sucking motion to go to sleep and I'm worried that I'm creating a rod for my own back!

Any advice on if I should just keep using the dummy and dropping the feeding at night? Or just switch back to just using my boob for comfort and feeding for all wake ups? She's on the 91st percentile and has remained that so I feel happy I'm doing something right although I'm concerned I have an oversupply as get engorged often and she's having quite a lot of green poo lately!!

TIA

At 4 months some babies can sleep all night!! 2 of mine from a fortnight old!! I lay awake with massive boobs unable to sleep! Try the dummy at both wakes. If she is hungry dummy won't do so feed her. But you won't know unless you try! And lay her down just that bit awake! Sleeping in your arms can be a hard habit to break!

Thanks for your reply @Santaischeckinglists, I did think that surely she'll tell me if she's hungry? I try so much to put her down just about awake but she just wakes straight up, pings her eyes wide open and excitedly thrash her arms around 😣 I really really want to get her to drift off in the next2me by herself but I'm stuck with ideas on how to help her! X

It definitely sounds like she doesn't need the night feeds - I'd just keep using the dummy. Mine dropped hers around 3 months I think (well, the second did anyway, my first was still going at over 18 months!). Around 6 months or even a bit younger she would manage to find the dummy at night and stick it back in herself which was great. And even if they do need help, it's easier to pop the dummy in for them than feed. We used to put her down awake but drowsy (a state I honestly did NOT believe existed with my first baby!), put the dummy in and hand on tummy or stroke her head and go "shhhhhhh'. She'd sometimes grizzle a little bit or cry and need to be picked up and put down again and one of us would stay in the same room but eventually she learnt to settle herself and now at 10 months takes around 10 seconds to get to sleep.I wouldn't worry about the arm thrashing as long as she isn't crying, she might just want to have a bit of a wriggle about before settling.