Difficult 2nd night

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Got home today after LSCD yesterday. First baby. Expected things to be hard but so far tonight baby hasn’t managed to go down at all - will sleep in mine or DH’s arms but that’s all. Lots of feeding cues then doesn’t want to go to the breast. As soon as down in cot is upset then twitchy then hysterical. It’s now 4.30 and I’ve not made it to bed yet. DH is going to take over in a bit.

Don’t know what I want, reassurance I’m not alone I guess! And any advice…

*LSCS - sorry for my tired brain!

So sorry you are going through this. It will get better, I promise! I don't have any tips or tricks, my first would only sleep in bursts of 20 minutes, and only when he was in my arms. It is exhausting and I feel for you, you poor thing. At least you have a husband who is stepping up-accept any help that comes your way, and sleep when you can!

The second night is honestly always the worst. The are building up your supply. Try to take shifts, get plenty of sleep tommorow. I promise it will get easier. Have you tried swaddling and white noise?

First of all, congratulations on your little one. These first few days are so hard! I've not had a CS but I imagine that you need to rest as much as possible - so if you can let your DH do more of the soothing/cuddling, you may be able to snatch a few precious minutes of sleep between feeds.

As you're only on day 2 your milk may not have come in yet. Things will change once it does - your baby will feed for longer and (hopefully!) sleep for longer too.

For now just offer your breast as often as possible. Maybe try different feeding positions in case that helps. Make sure you have plenty to drink and eat yourself, to keep your energy up. And hang on in there!

Congratulations! Night two is normally pretty awful, a lot of it is to do with the baby working to secure a bond an bring your milk in. I work in maternity and often warn women about night two so that they aren’t too shocked by it. We’re you taught how to hand express? If baby is doing feeding cues but not latching it might be worth expressing some colostrum for them. Also remember that you are recovering from major surgery and take up/ask for any help you need from your partner. Really hoping things get better for you quickly.

How are you doing this morning, OP? Hope you're okay.

I know it's super tough, but remember that your baby has just spent 9 months in the womb. He has no idea what life is like outside, what's expected of him, when or how he should sleep or feed.. this is all new to him.

You will get there, but everything right now is incredibly new and strange for all of you.

Your baby has spent such a long time being a part of you that of course he doesn't want to be put down. But he will get used to it. It is so so hard but you are doing a wonderful job - even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes.

Thanks all. Everything much better in the day as I’m sure you all know! Just good to know I’m not alone. The restorative power of 3 hours of continuous sleep also can’t be overstated .

On the upside how lucky I am to have a healthy, lovely baby.