Background: DD is nearly 4 months, I sleep in her room as she feeds at least once during the night and DH can't function in his job if he has broken sleep. She's basically with me 24/7, I put her in her pram downstairs for daytime and evening naps and only put her in the cot after her last feed at approx 10 or 11pm when I go to bed myself.
This arrangement seems to suit us all but I suppose I just need reassurance that I'm not the only person doing this. In RL everyone is doing routines and putting the baby down at, say, 7pm after a bath and the babies are used to settling in their own room. However I'm keen to stay in her room until she's six months' old, following the cot death guidelines.
I suppose I lack confidence about my choices because everyone I meet is doing GF or BW and their babies are sleeping through (or so they say). They also get to spend the evenings alone with their DHs and I suppose I can see the appeal of that. By the way I'm breastfeeding on demand and I suppose that also makes it impossible to predict exactly when feeds will take place from one day to the next, although DD has fallen into a distinct pattern of sorts. Basically as long as she has some awake time and some sleep time between feeds then she stays quite happy (ie not overtired). At night she usually settles in her cot quickly when I go to bed and also after her nighttime feed.
She is thriving, a good weight, pretty happy on the whole. I've probably answered my own questions but would love to know if at this stage you did something similar (ie no routine) and if it worked. And also, at what point, if any, you DID introduce a routine. Thanks