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11mo won't settle for me, only DH

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3ormorecharacters · 22/11/2021 06:13

For background, DD is 11mo and was EBF to 6 months. Since weaning she's almost totally lost interest in breastfeeding but it's remained the only way she'll be settled when she wakes at night - which is usually 3-4 times a night, sometimes more sometimes less. She will go down for naps and at the start of the night without but I've always used it to resettle as it's usually been so quick and easy. Recently I've been trying to get her used to resettling without boob as I'm wanting to wind down breastfeeding now that she has teeth and we're TTC and I'm generally just a bit over it.

Now the problem - DD will now not resettle for me at all. She's fine for naps and the start of the night (goes down awake), but when she wakes at night she just screams at me. Not just screams, but pushes away from me, scratches me, bites me. It's horrible. Even when I give in and BF her, she goes quiet but when she finishes feeding starts nipping me. Then when I unlatch her the screaming starts again.

DH goes in and picks her up, and she's quiet almost immediately. Though still takes a long time to settle as she will start again unless fully asleep when put down.

I'm finding it really stressful, especially on my work nights. DH doesn't cope well with lack of sleep and can't do all wakes. But I can't take being screamed at, scratched, pinched and bitten for hours either. She's lovely and happy in the day (though recently tired due to lack of sleep...) What can I do?!

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3ormorecharacters · 22/11/2021 07:32

Hopeful bump... I'm so down about this. I even shouted at her last night after a full 45 mins of being screamed at. Has anyone else been here?

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