Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Sleep

Join our Sleep forum for tips on creating a sleep routine for your baby or toddler. Need more advice on your childs development? Sign up to our Ages and Stages newsletter here.

Toddler sleep help!!!!!

5 replies

JumpingPiglets · 18/11/2021 02:58

By DS is 27 months. At 8 months we did controlled crying and he slept until this month really well. Now it has all gone to shit. He won't sleep in his cot or the bed in his room and will climb out repeatedly for hours. He's waking up in the middle of the night and screaming. My DP is broken by it. Shes had one decent nights sleep in 3 weeks. I try to help but DS screams for her. What do we do?

OP posts:
BlusteringBoobies · 18/11/2021 03:25

I'm replying as I'm also up with toddler. Younger at 22 months but like you slept perfectly fine from 7 months till last week.

Suddenly has become very clingy with me. It escalated to the point that I had to stay in the room until he went to sleep but he'd then wake in the night to be held. Then cry as soon as he was put in the cot (we're still in cot stage). Then cry if he woke at any point and we'd left the room.

We've gone back to controlled crying. I hate it but he'd been up for 3/4 hours a night with me or DH constantly comforting him/staying in the room and he still had a horrible night. So we bit the bullet.

It's harder at this age I think as they're more communicative and have more energy to go longer but he's not left for more than 5 mins at a time. We found picking him up each time we went in wasn't helping as he almost reset. So we go in, big cuddle while he's standing, remind him we love him and we're just outside and give him his comforter.

Tuesday night it took an hr to go down and 1.5 hours of being awake 2-3.30 (so better than the previous nights). Tonight he went down in 20 and has been awake for the last 2 hours but not consistently (went to sleep after an hour and I woke him up going for a wee).

I'm on another thread of similar aged toddlers who all seem to be going through it. Must be a regression around this age but it's bloody brutal!

Oh, and my DH went in despite him preferring me and we found this actually helped as he realised I wasn't coming so gave up a little earlier. Whereas he got more upset when I went in and then left him again.

Snorkello · 18/11/2021 08:00

Sounds drastic and a huge backward step, but have you tried co sleeping? Just for now until he’s older.

You will sleep better this way. But it’s not for everyone.

Otherwise, I would suggest you and ds spend some quality time together and you take over bed times for now. Give your partner a break and get ds used to you being his bedtime buddy.

Do give your son lots of hugs and love when he wakes in the night. Soothing songs, snuggles etc. he needs empathy and reassurance, not abandonment (not a criticism of controlled crying, this can be effective, but if it’s night terrors, which common for his age, he needs reassurance for now).

Remember it’s just a phase. It will get better.

JumpingPiglets · 18/11/2021 08:12

It's not better when I do it. It's worse. Co-sleeping is awful. He claws at my DPs breasts (top or no top) and kicks our heads.

OP posts:
Snorkello · 18/11/2021 08:58

Yep! We get that too. Being kicked in the face at 3am is not great…

So maybe work on being his go to at night. Just stay calm and quiet.

Have you tried sleeping near him? Sometimes that helps too. Plus if he’s thirsty, maybe some water.

FATEdestiny · 18/11/2021 19:00

How do you get him to go to sleep at bedtime?

What about naptime in the day?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page