8 month sleep regression?

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I feel so utterly useless. The past week my boy has decided he absolutely does not want to sleep, and last night was the worst night since bringing him home.

He is almost 9 months and has very recently starting crawling and taking his first few steps. I've read this development stage can be the reason for sleep regression. When he wakes during the night he sits up, then stands up, then just cry's and screams. I'm trying not to feed to sleep because I'm due to go back to work soon and don't want to make my husbands life more difficult (he's a stay at home dad). I tried picking him up, rocking him, giving him water, changing his nappy, letting him cry it out and holding his hand so he knew I was there but absolutely nothing worked.
Ive had 2 hours sleep and in top of the last week of horrendous nights I just feel so overwhelmed and like a failure.
DS was nearly 2 hours late for his morning nap(you'd think he would be exhausted) as he wouldn't lay down. Eventually DH worked his magic. I think DS is now just overtired.
Please, does anyone have any encouragement that this won't last forever. Has anyone been through it and it's got better.
Why won't DS settle for me because I do exactly what DH does.
I just sat last night trying everything crying thinking is this what my life has now become.

Sorry if I sounds whiny, I love DS so much, I'm just exhausted. As is DH who has been very encouraging

Bumping for you. My lo went through this in night for about 1.5 weeks or so when she learned to sit. Up and down up and down. Must admit I didn't go in unless she cried. As I read somewhere that you should encourage them learning to sit and get back down themselves. Even when I went in, I only did quick nappy check, offered water, (she gets enough in day and if she has any in night she won't drink her milk in the day nor as much solids) a cuddle and pop back down. Usually after more sitting and back down she drifted back off.

This probably isn't helpful and doesn't answer all your questions. Is lo able to self soothe?

Thank you for replying. He was able to self sooth sometimes, but not every time. I only go in when he’s making noises just before he cries, if that makes sense(you do get to know when they are about to blow don’t you?!)
I do hope it’s short lived, but I’ve just heard horror stories about how it’s gone on for years

I think from what I seen on here and other places is consistentcy is key if lo wakes in night. Chose what your going to do in the night and stick with it. I would work on lo being able to self soothe by self at all times and go from there. Oh yes you know the build up. Tbh I don't always hear her before the meltdown.

It's likely to be behavioural. It's unwelcome behaviour, it might be the first time you've dealt with unwelcome behaviour (but you will deal with many other things in the toddler years!).

Essentially you have to teach him that while he can (ie, is physically able to) get himself from lying down to standing up, that the cot is not a place where this is acceptable. He's got to learn "we lie down in the cot".

So it just needs a million repetitions. Lie him back down again and again and again and again. At first it might be 2 hours of standing next to the cot and repeatedly lying him back down. But be consistent. It solves itself when he realises that he has no other option (firm parental boundaries) so stops trying.

Hello! Just googling for answers for this exact thing. Found your post. Just started to experience exactly what you have described, almost identical, with 8 month old. Sorry I know this is an old threat but just wondering what happened in the end? Going crazy wondering if this is the new normal or if this will end! Worried new habits will form, like going in the room too often/rocking etc, and it won’t end because of that! Ahh! Did yours go back to normal eventually? Thanks so much for any advice!