Ds1 has bedshared with us half nights for over a year, all naps at home in his own bed in his room, and at night he would sleep half the night in his own space then when he woke we’d bring him to our bed.
We have a 3 mo baby now who is a dream sleeper so far, wakes once for milk. Sadly I can’t enjoy this as toddler has gotten worse, wakes me multiple times at night for milk and starts kicking and head butting me if I don’t give in.
I waited til now to make any changes so he wasn’t overwhelmed with the baby arriving too but I can’t take the crap sleep anymore. I’m incredibly lucky ds2 is a good sleeper and think it’s time ds1 learns to stay in his room. He’s actually done so a handful of nights with no input or assistance from us.
I’ve restricted his breast milk to morning, before nap and before bedtime after initially letting him breastfeed whenever (very good supply so new baby has gained weight brilliantly despite tandem feeding). Ds 1 was refusing solids due being full of milk and leaking out of his overnight nappies!
Tonight toddlers come to our bed about 12, then woke me at 2, and 4, wanting milk. He woke baby too. I use positive language e.g yes in the morning, but after lying there being punched kicked and shouted at for milk I’ve put him in his room (he’s currently in a room adjoined to ours) and put stair gate on. Have got up to out him back in his bed a few times but he’s at the safety gate crying and shouting (I’ll get him “up” At 7 ) I don’t expect to be able to make any changes without tears - but any advice on the best way to teach him to sleep in his own bed and stay there?
He has bedding he loves, we spend time playing in his room..
Thank you if you’ve read this far!