18 month old vs sleep

[Lyd88]

Hey.
Long post sorry
So I posted when my LO was 6 months old about his lack of sleep. After being told about sleep regression I accepted that answer and patiently waited
Now at 18 months old he still will not sleep. So I moved him out of our room. Moved heaven and earth to give him his own space. Have tried all the routines. Potions. Lotions. Oils. Pj's. Vitamins. Music. Sounds. Smells. You name it I have tried it. He still wakes frequently in the night. A good night. A win shall we say. Is only waking twice. A bad day is him screaming himself to sleep. I cannot leave him to cry it out as he ends up either passing out or puking. He doesn't always want a cuddle or boob. Some times it's a bum pat or a had held. There is no consistency with what he wants/needs. It doesn't help that during the day he is my shadow. He is the ultimate clingy baby that no one else will do. He hates everyone. Even daddy. It's all me and I'm really starting to feel myself slipping into a Blackhole.
I have older children and I'm missing out on any time with them because my LO needs so much attention that he is sucking the life from me.
Advice welcome but mainly I wanted to vent. Anyone else that can tell me they are in the same boat would help me feel less of a crazy failure ❤

Hi. Was just looking to post something similar about my boy. He's 23 months and a total nightmare at the minute, sleep is all over the place and like you I have tried every trick in the book to no avail. I feel like a living zombie and am also slipping down that black hole. I wish I had some advice to offer you! But your not alone

I really appreciate your reply. I think any advice given will have already been tried so wouldn't help much lol. I'm sorry to hear you are going through the same, but also thankful I'm not the only person going through it. It can be a very lonely place with a non sleeping child! ❤

I don't have any helpful advice at all but my three have all been like this. Nap refusers, hard to get to sleep and impossible to stay asleep. I'm still co-sleeping with my 2 year old as he wakes every 90 minutes or so. Sometimes he'll go straight back to sleep and others it's just relentless screeching or fidgeting or singing bloody row row row your boat. We ended up playing divide and conquer with the kids- husband sleeps in the same room as the older two and I deal with the youngest. It's the only way any of us get a modicum of sleep.

Nothing has worked for any of them except them getting older. I've tried everything. My grandma once suggested laudanum to me and I was in such a sleep deprived mess that I actually went to boots and asked for it. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ With all three of mine the period between about 14 months to 25 months has been absolutely nightmarish and all three have seen me signed off after plunging into the blackhole you speak of. Sleep deprivation is horrific and you have my sympathies.

My older two started sleeping properly around 3-3.5 so I'm clinging on for that. DD2 is still a bit rubbish at sleep, constantly fidgets or is up at the crack of dawn but generally doesn't wake much through the night. We taught her how to go downstairs and put Disney plus on so at least she's happy and not disturbing anyone else. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Bless you!
My older three children were so good. Which is limd of why I'm finding this time around so hard. I basically sleep with him too. I find getting up and down constantly so draining that I just give up after him getting up the first few times that I just stay with him. He still wakes etc. But I can just deal with it there and then. There is hope then that as he gets older things will change. I bet you guys will have the same problem in the way that you can never leave them with anyone to do anything for yourself too x

Yes it's definitely lonely on a night, it feels like the whole world is asleep and your the only one awake doesn't it. My older ds was soooo much easier, slept better, more laid back, didn't whine and cry like ds2. I think that's why I feel as drained as I do. As you said op when there all you it's bloody hard work!! How was last night for everyone? 🤍

No advice but sympathy as 14mDD is the same. Fighting naps, Velcro attached to me, started sleeping badly on a night.
I don't know how people have more than one and survive! Me and DH are knackered and generally grumpy and lacklustre all the time

Hiw would you feel about weaning from breastfeeding? Are you ready to do that yet?

I think your baby needs some quality sleep training. But this isn't going to be possible if you're still feeding to sleep.

That s not to say improving sleep isn't possible if you continue breastfeeding, it's just it needs a different approach to sleep training.