Am I putting too much pressure on myself?

[R4ch4e1]

My son is coming up for 10 weeks and I have recently read a book about sleep training/self settling etc and it says that you can start this from early days. So, I've been attempting to put him down for naps/sleep when he's drowsy but awake, today particularly this has went (in a few words) "completely tits up" - he kept crying every time I put him down which made me feel terrible so, I gave up and went back to patting him and walking around the house to get him down to sleep.
My man says I'm too caught up in what this book says but, I feel like I'm failing if I don't encourage him to self settle as it'll benefit us all in the long run?

Any tips much appreciated 🙏

I'm with your mum. You don't need to train them to sleep, it's a normal human function. Some of them are comfortable sleeping alone from the get gi, others need a bit more support when they are tiny. My kids are 8 and 10 and how well they and their classmates slept when they were babies is completely irrelevant. Most of us have forgotten how long or even how our babies napped. Just get through it in the most comfortable way to you. Path of least resistance for all baby related moments

Far too early for training! Read up on the 4th trimester instead.

Anything you can imagine about baby sleep, there's a book telling you how to do it and why if you don't do it you're a horrible person.
Just because its in a book doesn't make it true.
How do you know you've read the right book?
You need to do what works for you, baby and your family. It sounds like this method isn't right for you right now. Go back to doing what you were doing.
He doesn't need to self settle especially not at 10 weeks.

Throw your book out (burn it if it's a Gina Ford!)

I recommend the Gentle Sleep Book as it tells you about the 4th trimester and sets expectations much more accurately.

In my extensive experience if 2 babies either you can put them down awake but drowsy, or you CANNOT.

I had 1 I couldn't put down ever at all, never napped in the cot etc. The other, would happily lay on the play mat thing, and the next thing you'd know he'd be asleep!! You could put him down and he was perfectly happy, and napped fabulously whereever you left him.

I think I've honestly given myself anxiety as I've been hearing about the "4 month sleep regression" and this is what's started all this book reading about sleep training etc!

Oh just hold your baby he needs his mummy! I’ve never sleep trained any of mine. Self soothing is developmental and can’t be taught. Sleep is so linear in the first two years anyway! That being said if you still want to sleep train 10 weeks is far far too young!

@R4ch4e1

I think I've honestly given myself anxiety as I've been hearing about the "4 month sleep regression" and this is what's started all this book reading about sleep training etc!

There's a bunch of sleep regressions which are linked to their development and what's happening in their brain chemistry. There's not much you can do about it. It'll be ok and they move past it. Just cuddle your baby and make the most of any rest time you get, or napping opportunity. And make other mum friends!

Do what you need to get lo to sleep at that age. A little tip try not walking round the house all the time getting lo to sleep - probably hurt your back in end! Try doing same movements sitting or minimise walking your back will thank you x