Night weaning advice for 9 mo

[river12]

My 9 month old wakes constantly through the night for a feed (breastfed). Always has done, has never gone longer than 3 hours. I really want to stretch this and help her sleep through, I’m back at work in November and need more sleep! Trouble is, could she actually be hungry? She seems to have a decent enough feed each time she wakes. Daytime she feeds well so I’m pretty sure she shouldn’t need this many feeds at night.
She goes to bed at 6 and wakes up for the day at 7. At the moment she wakes at 9, 12, 3 and 6. She doesn’t feed to sleep, but feeding settles her and then she goes to sleep herself in the cot. When you start to night wean is it best to cut out a feed completely? If so which one? Or is it best to gradually breastfeed for less time until it’s cut out?
Any help or advice is appreciated!

I’d maybe try cut out the one that would give you the longest stretch of sleep first - so 3am maybe, or midnight, depending what time you go to bed? - and see how that goes. When we did it we tried resettling another way for the feed we wanted to cut out. Then if she woke again very soon after I assumed the hunger was genuine and fed her. But mostly she slept for another few hours and I think it had become habitual. Still not shaken off the 4/5am feed yet but I think she still needs it probably and it’s the easiest way to get her back to sleep at that hour... I’ve read cutting down by a few minutes each night can be a good way to do it too though. Good luck either way!

Thank you. Everything you’ve said makes so much sense. Its so hard when you’re in the thick of it, sometimes it’s nice to get a nod in the right direction from someone whose done it

Hope it goes well! We used the Lucy Wolfe stay and support method for settling, so sitting by cot to begin with and comforting then moving further away. It wasn’t easy I won’t lie, my husband had to do it as I’m too soft. Friends of mine have done it more gently offering water and cuddles. Depends what you’re comfortable with I guess! We were also tackling hourly wakings as well as multiple night feeds though