1 month old not sleeping through the day.

[mummato2boys]

Hi everyone ,

Any suggestions on how to keep baby asleep through the day. He wakes up ten minutes after we get him into his bassinet. He will sleep fine being held but we have a 2 year old we like to spend time with through the day.

He's fine at night 3-4 hours from 8pm - 7am but as soon as 7am hits he becomes very difficult.

Hey,
Sorry but I really think you will just have to do contact naps for now. That's where baby feels safest, being held by you so they will instantly wake once you put them somewhere that's hard & cold compared to you.

I'm saying this with sympathy though because I do know how tough it is. My baby has just turned 6 mo. She was exactly the same! I also have a 4 yr old that requires a lot of attention.
I would suggest getting a sling. My baby would sleep for ages in one of those. A wrap one I found best at this age. But we also have a baby Bjorn one she likes.

It gets easier, honest! Just try enjoy the cuddles. Play games/puzzles on the floor with your toddler where you can cuddle the baby too!

Along, or walk with both of them, visit a playground so your toddler can play or let them scoot alongside. Walk to an activity with both in double pram. Drive somewhere to coincide with naptime.

I think you have to make the effort to keep them asleep at first, then they will gradually start to accept sleeping in the bassinet (hopefully)

Along should have been sling

I have a 7 week old, I use a ring sling, I really like it, I just put him in and he falls asleep. I also have a stroller that is good for newborns, it can lay flat, I use that around the house, he naps in it and I have an active 2 year old, I can bring baby anywhere with us.

Sling mostly for the first 3 months, or she'd sleep on my lap while I played sat on the floor. We went out a fair bit too so she'd sleep in the buggy while we played on the play ground.

Sling or long pram walks

Sorry posting on the hop.

There's a "4th trimester " they don't feel safe unless being held. Mine didn't!

He's one month old! Becomes very difficult? This is an odd post.

This must be a fake post because I can’t believe someone wrote wrote this.

Your baby is 1 MONTH OLD. Get a grip!

@mummato2boys a swaddle reduces external stimulation and makes putting baby down slightly easier. Likewise having a dummy to suck on can make independant sleep easier.

Another idea is to put baby to sleep in something that moves. I favour bouncy chair for this. It means you can keep the movement going (and so keep baby asleep) while also playing with toddler.

@drpet49

This must be a fake post because I can’t believe someone wrote wrote this.

Your baby is 1 MONTH OLD. Get a grip!

You're either very ignorant or aren't a parent yourself.

Why not offer helpful advice instead of telling a very new mother to get a grip?
Sleep deprivation is like nothing else and I'm sure most people that haven't had much prior experience expect newborns to sleep long hours and just wake for food.
When you have had children you know that isn't always the case.
This parent is reaching out for help in the early days of parenthood,
I think you need to get a grip.

Thank you @lavenderlemon I was very hesitant to reply to anyone after this post. I love my kids so much but it can be difficult. I have spent hours and hours rocking , breastfeeding and humming nursery rhymes. and then I have my 2 year old who just wants to spend a little time with his mum , who is still so young and not adjusted. I have however brought myself a swaddle and a wrap and both have helped immensely.

@drpet49 please also keep in mind I had post natal depression with my first child and seeing this post back with my first child would of had me in tears and anxious for days. I am so much better this time and enjoying parenthood so much more this time but sleep deprivation is no joke!

MY DC slept best in a sling or in my arms in the early days. When I say sling I mean the wraps. You can really get them snugly fitting into you. They say they like it as it reminds them of being in the womb.

Get a carrier. Mine is 3.5m and still sleeps best on me or in the pram for naps.

Get a sling so they can contact nap and you have your hands free. In a month they'll be big enough to back carry and you won't even notice they're there.

It's babies natural instinct to wake and cry at that age. He still thinks he's part of you.
Google 4th trimester.
Contact naps and a sling! It will pass - my DD got better around 12 weeks. He's only one month old, he's not being difficult, he's being a normal newborn baby, and I know it's really hard, but it's normal and what he needs

@mummato2boys I went through this and my god was so hard during the day. I ended up using a sling but he didn't like it. Actually he didn't like anything I used. I was told it would get easier- I laughed as it's still the same now at 6months. Evenings where worse as he would cry into the next feed. I did find using back ground noise like white/brown or pink noise helped. The only thing he will go longer maybe an extra 10min. Enough for me to shower and put some washing away.