If you co-sleep

[beans1992]

Posted on a different board but this one is probably more suitable:

What does your evening look like? What I mean by this is does your DC still have a bedtime? Do they go to bed when you do or does it mean you having to go to bed earlier? I’m talking 2-3 years+ not babies.

TIA

My daughter is 21 months old and we co-sleep half the night. She goes to bed 7-7:30 in her own room and floor bed...she wakes around 3am and comes into our bed. She still has never slept through! I like the cuddles though and her time in own bed means we still get the evening to ourselves :)

At 2-3 years I'd often go to bed at the same time as them (8pm) but only because I was tired! Evenings I wasn't I'd doze off with them for about an hour then sneak off downstairs. They were totally fine alone.

My son will be 3 in November and he’s my 4th, so you would think I would have learned but no we are up until he falls asleep 🤦🏼‍♀️ He then clings to me on our super kingsize bed, if I move he wakes 🤦🏼‍♀️ Oh well it’s not forever and it’s partly due to the fact he would have to share a room with his 9 year old brother which wouldn’t work. I’m planning on getting an extension soon and once he gets his own room I am hoping I end up with some ‘me time’ at night!

Our DS (3) goes to bed at 6:30/7pm and sleeps in her bed until about 10/11pm and then she goes to the loo and then comes into bed with us afterwards. We have a super king sized bed so we all sleep fine together and my DH and I have an evening together and some downtime as well. It works well for us all.

Mine is 24 months, he's bf to sleep at around 7.30 pm then I lie him on my bed with a video baby monitor so I can watch him while I eat my dinner, watch TV with DP etc. He usually sleeps until around 11pm when he'll wake up and notice me missing, that's when I go to bed and join him.

Depends. Occasionally if she’s poorly/sad/being extra 2, she’ll want to start the night in our bed and also want company. And I’m lazy and have a kindle with backlight so I’ll go to bed with her and pretend it’s a giant sacrifice so DP owes me big time

But mostly now she has proper bedtime and even if she randomly falls asleep in our bed or, as yesterday, as we were lowering her into her bath, she starts the night in her cot and if she wakes, comes in with me and we boot noisy DP to the sofa.

Just occasionally she’ll be in our bed from the get-go and I won’t want to stay – like if we go to my parents’ house – in which case I just surround her with pillows, turn the monitor up and prepare to sprint up 8,000 flights of stairs if I hear a thud.

At that age we started to try and slowly make the transition to letting them know that we would be sleeping with them but not going to sleep at the same time as them, by purposely lying next to them with my day clothes on, so they knew I wasn’t ready, but lying with them until they fell asleep. I remember it not always panning out like that and I’d fall asleep next to them… but slowly we made the transition.
Youngest is now 8, still Co sleeps but is happy to fall asleep without us.
Eldest is 12 and although Co slept until aged 9, wouldn’t date sleep with us now 🤣🤣

*dare

Mine is still a baby at 14 months - I used to go to bed with her about 7.30 and just read/ watch stuff on my tablet. When she turned one we started getting her down in her own cot (still in our room) and she will stay there now at least until about 11, sometimes she makes it through till 2 or 3am, and we cosleep from that point. I’m in no rush to drop the cosleeping altogether but do enjoy having my evenings back and some time with my husband!

When my son was little I would either go to bed with him, or he’d sleep on the sofa. When he got a bit older I would stay in the room while he fell asleep and then get in bed with him when I went. Now he’s six he sometimes falls asleep alone and he gets in my bed when he wakes up in the night.

As with PP, ours start the night in their own beds and come into ours at some point in the morning. Our eldest went into a floor bed at 18 months and we were able to stairgate the landing in such a way that she could get to us but not to the stairs, and she'd just toddle into our room. Now she's three, some nights she sleeps through in her own bed and some nights she comes into ours at around 4 a.m.

I partly cosleep with a 2 1/4 year old. Bedtime is a 6 and I’m out about 6.45. If she has a cold then DH I may need to resettle her before 10. Some times I will end up in there from 10 onwards but very occasionally she sleep through. She has been in her own bed, 3/4 double size since about 20 months.