AMW - Parents in law not concerned about naps - 6mo

[MumofOne111111]

I have a 6mo little boy and have him on a really good routine of 3 naps a day - he sleeps 12 hours at night and I’ve worked hard to get this routine so he has 3 naps a day that he goes down for easily. When his grandparents (partners parents) take him for the day, I always pick him up and they say “he’s slept for 15 minutes” or he’s not slept at all. Am I wrong for getting annoyed by this?
I try not to be overbearing but for me his sleep is really important.
I suffered from post natal anxiety and OCD and used to obsess about his sleep so I’ve tried to be laid back about it but at the end of the day if he hasn’t slept I’m the one that has to deal with an over tired crying baby
Do I just need to chill out more or should his grandparents respect his routine more?

If he’s out of his normal routine (which he will be when he’s with his gps) then his sleep will be up the left.

Try not to let it bother you.

My parents were respectful of my routines. But grandparents doing favours need to be given a little flex. And your DC will behave differently in their home and with them
Which might make your exact routine difficult to maintain. A three nap routine is a little tricky for someone else to follow as it makes their day quite bitty.

His routine will only ever remain the same for a few weeks at a time due to his rapid development. So id try not to worry too much. Children often come back from daycare or grandparents overtired for these kinds of reasons.

As long as they are generally supportive and respectful of you. And they are warm and loving to DC id let it go.

Thanks guys! I think I sometimes just get a bit over concerned by it - I’ll try to be more chilled (think the PNA and OCD sometimes rear it’s ugly head) and just let them do it their way when he’s at theirs.

I disagree with other PPs here. Are people really saying it’s ok for a 6-month old baby not to sleep all day?!

OP, whilst it’s a bit much to expect them to follow your exact routine, daytime sleep is essential for a baby so small, so they should be ensuring he has at least one if not two quality blocks of sleep a day. So I would be more relaxed about your routine, and say you’re happy for him to fit around them more, but I would be very clear with them that he must sleep. Yes, it’s great that they’re helping out, but part of caring for a child is meeting their basic needs - would they not feed him for the day? I doubt it. So sleep is as important as food at that age.