four months sleep regression happy stories please

[Pelicant]

Because I need them at the moment... And reading a million books, they seem to say that he should be self-settling before he will move through the sleep regression. And that isn't going well either. It's basically feed to sleep or I think he might never actually sleep again. So if I keep feeding to sleep, will he just never move through the regression? Please send happy stories about how it just went away after a bit... HELP.

Yes! It really will just go away. Sleep is developmental and every single baby will get there in the end. The myth of being able to teach self settling is peddled by sleep consultants who are after your money. Feed your little one to sleep and just try and survive, because it’s absolute hell. My LO still feeds to sleep at 7-months and I love it - it’s the most natural thing you can do. Leaving a baby alone in a cot to magically fall asleep themselves, is not natural, and most babies at this age will not do it without significant crying first. So you have two options - embrace the situation, and feed to sleep as the quickest and simplest method, or drive yourself crazy with stress trying to google an answer to a problem that is just baby being a baby. It’s tough, but I promise you, this is not your forever!

Thanks - but I can't really wait to get there in the end, as need to get back to work in a few weeks - and that's not compatible with feeding to sleep for much longer.

6 weeks that nearly killed us on our already shit at sleeping first.

Moved her to her own room at 7 months and she slept through for the first time the very first night. Slept through roughly 4 nights out of 7 after that, depending on teething, illness etc.

Now 3yo and has been a brilliant sleeper for a long time. Bedtimes are a different story, but once she goes over that's her for the night.

No 2 was a brilliant sleeper from day 1. 4 month regression was 2 slightly disturbed nights. Remains a good sleeper when not teething, she's 14 months now. So you're not destined to repeat this if you have another!

it's absolutely awful at the time.

OP, sorry, I’m confused. You wanted stories about how it will ‘just go away’, so I told you yes, it will get better, so just keep doing what you are doing (which you said was feeding to sleep), and try and survive. But now you say you can’t wait for it to get there in the end.

It will ‘go away’, but when your LO is ready.

Have you considered he may be cold? My 4 month old was sleeping til 5am and then 4 weeks ago started waking at 2 then 5 then 7. We put a thicker tog sleeping bag on him and he's now sleeping through until 7:45!!!