Help with my baby sleep

[Jc2911]

Please could anyone give me some advice. My baby girl is now 10 months old , she has never been a great sleeper and from newborn she has wanted to be held when sleeping.

I have now been putting her in her own room in her cot to sleep however I need to get her to sleep on my bed first and then transfer her across however she is waking very often , sometimes every 10/20 mins and is wanting picked up until she is back asleep then I put her down again. Before midnight she ends up in my bed because I can not settle her in the cot and by this time she has woken about 20 times. I don't sleep properly with her in the bed as I am very scared of suffocating her.

I am unable to leave her with anyone because no one can settle her and it's just getting me down as I feel I never get a break even once she's gone to bed. I feel so drained from it and have zero energy as I am up so much in the night. I just want her to be able to self soothe so that I can say goodnight , give her a kiss and put her down to bed until the morning but this seems impossible.

My friend told me to try the cry it out technique which I was very reluctant to do as I never ever leave her to cry. Things are getting really hard so I did try this however within the first minute of leaving her to cry she was sick everywhere so I went in and cleaned it all up and tried again, a further minute and she was sick again. After this I stopped and got her to sleep and realised that this technique is not going to work for us.

I have tried the sitting next to her cot last night and kept laying her down but she got so upset to the point she was about to be sick again.

I am just so lost on what to do. Please any advice would be appreciated!

That sounds really hard. Are you worried about rolling on her or getting bedclothes over her when co-sleeping?

Yeah I've always had a massive fear of all of this and have always had the alarm under her mattress which would let me know if she stopped breathing.

Even when in the bed she's such a wriggler and constantly hitting me in the face and overall I do just want her to be happy in her own bed , I want it so for example, if her grandparents were to come over and watch her for a few hours , they are able to do her bedtime routine. Because of covid she is not used to anyone and will only settle with me. If she was able to self soothe then this wouldn't be an issue

JC2911 You're not alone in this quest. We're all looking for that good night sleep. Do you go through the sleep routine during your mid day naps, it's much easier to console them when you're also not tired

I have a 10 month old who won’t self settle too, and. An only be fed to sleep at night but luckily for me she stays asleep for a bit longer when I sneak her into her cot. Still wakes about 4-5 times a night though. I end up cosleepng from the middle of the night and have a single duvet wrapped around me and tucked under in a double bed with my baby by my side and a bed guard on the edge of the bed. At 10 months I really think it would be hard to roll on your baby and do her harm if she’s quite mobile. Maybe sleeping in a sleeping bag would put your mind at rest. I get that co sleeping g isn’t the end goal that you’re after though. I’d like done I’ve to be able to put my baby down to sleep too.