comforter

[KAJ21]

Hi guys, I NEEEEEED some advice!

my little boy turned 3 months old yesterday, and since he was about 4 weeks old has been holding toys, then around 8 weeks old he’s been snuggling them. When we change his nappy he cries so we give him this bunny cuddly toy thing and it calms him immediately, and it’s always the toy we take with us so he’s quite fond of it.

anyway, I was under the impression that children don’t develop attachments to comforters until after 6 months, but he fell asleep with it in his hand in the pram and now he literally will not sleep without it! it’s been two weeks and he will not sleep unless he is holding it! i’ve gone cold turkey, completely taken it away during the day and he is fine until it’s nap time then he’s grabbing and crying until he’s holding it. I’ve tried taking it away once he’s fallen asleep but he just wakes up! this is a nightmare🙄

Why have you taken it away? Is there a problem with him having it if it clearly soothes him? Sorry if I've missed something.

I don't understand. Why would you want to take something away that soothes your little one. Let him have it whenever he wants would be my advice. I don't know what you think the issue is here if it helps him self sooth.

I don't understand your resistance to him using it as a comfort either. Just buy another one to exchange regularly and keep it clean.

Maybe due to safe sleep guidance the OP might be hesitant as it could be a SIDS risk.

I used to let my little one have a small teddy to see it would help him settle to sleep until the HV said it was a SIDS risk and that his cot should be clear.

I'm with pp. Lullaby guidance but that's my personal choice of how I feel. I can't bare the thought of something in my LO cot and she's 7 months except a pile of dummies 🤷🏼‍♀️

My first is very attached to his comforter and has been since 4 months old, now 2.5. If SIDS is your concern I used to leave it with him for naps because he slept in the same room I was in. At night I took it away once he fell asleep, gave it back if he stirred during the night and took it out again once settled.

This is what all parents are striving for. My son finally got attached to a comforter at 5 months and has been an independent sleeper since. We have seven comforters. Has really helped him start at nursery too.
I do feel your concern about safe sleeping though.

Let him have it if it helps him sleep!

Why can’t he have a comforter?

Buy loads of them for when they get tatty/lost. Trust me, you will be pleading on FB for replacements in years to come otherwise!

Hi everyone, I want him to have a comforter that’s not the issue, it’s the risk of SIDS

Then if you want the comforter then baby will have higher risk of sids unfortunately 🤷🏼‍♀️ have a google which I'm sure you done. They don't advise a comforter under 6 months. If not longer x

I think your question may be how has a baby developed an attachment to a soft toy so early?

Could you not let him fall asleep with it then remove it once asleep? I used to do this with my DD.

i just want suggestions on what to do as he won’t sleep without it and wakes up whenever i remove it but it’s not safe for sleep due to SIDS

Can you try to replace it with a different toy that he can hold but isn’t a soft toy? Would be less chance of suffocating presumably.