Newborn not sleeping at all at night

[Hullabalooobs]

My baby is only 4 days old, so I know early days! However, she is not getting any sleep at all at night time and I’m worried this is not good for her! She will feed, get all sleepy but as soon as she is put down in her cot, wake up screaming. She is then asking to be fed again, but I think this is often for comfort. She is not having any naps at night and I’m not sure what the best way forward is. Does anyone have any suggestions? I want to persevere with next to me cot as much as we can. We are working hard to keep night times low impact, calm and no stimulation so that she starts to learn difference between day and night. She is feeding well in the day and sleeping for long periods, with periods of wakefulness too. Thanks everyone.

@Hullabalooobs get a Tommy tippee swaddle sack, takes anxiety away about loose blankets/unravelling blankets. ALL BABIES NEED WINDING ☺️
Give your infant feeding team a calling tomorrow to chat things through and Breastfeeding Network for peer support xxx

If she’s happy in the Moses basket could you bring her to bed in that? Our baby would only sleep in her pram bassinet at first (it was one approved for safe overnight sleeping) so we put that inside our snuzpod for the first couple of nights then transitioned her once she was a bit more familiar with the room and space. Like you, I figured she was happier a little more confined. Promise you this will pass! Big hugs, it’s HARD x

It won't do her any harm. Tough for you though! Might get shot down for this bit I'd be tempted to try a little formula to see if that might help settle her....

@Hullabalooobs totally normal to be anxious and overthinking too! I still do it now allll the time and doubt myself daily. I think it's a ftm prerogative. So much googling has been done these past 10 weeks. Everything is one huge learning curve and one thing I have learnt is to try and trust my instincts more. Most of the time what I've done instinctively has turned out to be the right decision. I now wish I could rewind time and do it all again with the confidence I have now knowing that I got it right and all has panned out ok! Try and enjoy it as much as you can and try not to wish the time away too much as before you know it things will be 100 times easier and you will sleep again 😄

Oh yours, dummy worked for us for the first month but then she suddenly rejected it. Perhaps when she worked out that nothing came out of it. Do what works for you. If that means getting up and watching tv so you don't feel so lonely then that is fine. Turn taking is essential in these situations as are caffeine and snacks!

4 days is very young for a cot, which will feel like a very big, lonely place.

Do you have a Moses basket or a side by side?

You will just have to go with her until she is a bit older.

Also, is she in the same room as you?

Re winding I think it really depends on the baby.

I didn't bother at night as DS had a settled breast feed and drifted off into a settled sleep so he certainly didn't seem to be bothered by any wind ! ! And all it did was cause me stress thinking I had to wake him up to wind him resulting in even more sleep deprivation for us all! In the end I just thought sod it and tried to follow his lead the best I could. You get all sorts of advice but some of it take with a pinch of salt

My dc1 was a nocturnal beast. Fed all night pretty much and slept all day ( when people would pop round to admire her meaning I couldn't sleep!) but things dramatically improved at about 5 weeks. She actually was a, great sleeper at night from about 6 weeks. Stick with it, totally normal in my opinion. Tell people to piss off if you need to sleep in the day!

Crikey yes, rereading comments my breastfed baby needed winding more than my bottle fed ones. Gotta bust that myth, it's nonsense!

My first bf and constant wind, my second bf before we had been discharged a student midwife was winding her for me!
They increase your supply by feeding at night.
It’s easier to put them down if you warm the mattress up first with a hot water bottle